A 22 month old and a 5 month old -looking after on own and no idea how

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I just don’t know how to do it, my 5 month old for the last week has started screaming relentlessly. Whenever I put her down in her chair floor etc wherever she is just not happy. She screams if I put her in her pram for a walk. The only time she is happy is if I walk around continuously in the house with her facing outwards. She isn’t big enough for the baby carrier to face outwards at the moment and she refuses to face inwards. I have no idea how to keep them both happy. I need to put her down to deal with my toddler but then she just screams constantly. Has anyone got any advice? I just feel like I’m failing and can’t keep them both happy. I can’t even get out the house because she just screams and cries in her pram. Thank you

Ring sling so you can hip carry the baby so they get a better world view than inward facing in a carrier?

Teething pain? Seeking comfort from contact? Calpol?

Cranial osteopath?

Accept that one or other will have some tears while you sort out the other?

Nursery or childminders for the 22m old for a 1 or 2 days a week to take the pressure off?

Genuine sympathy, my age gap is 2.5 years honestly don't know.how anyone does it with a smaller gap!! Hope you find some solutions soon

I only have one but when she won’t settle I put her in the baby carrier (facing in) and get walking. Facing out isn’t great for their posture in a carrier, but if she likes to look out, you could try a high up back carry with a sling. Once the baby has fallen asleep you’re freed up to spend time with your toddler.

19 month gap for me. Unfortunately it's going to be a tough time no matter what you do. My no.1 tip is DROP YOUR STANDARDS! Yes, one or both of your kids are going to be upset with you because they can't be your no.1 priority all the time. This is the beginning of them learning to share and compromise - one of the reasons many of us had for having more than one in the first place!

Practically, a sling and an electric swing for the baby so you can attend to toddler (and yourself).
A safe toddler proofed area where you can leave them for a bit to attend to baby, and judicious use of TV/ipad.
Take all the help you can get.

It will pass when they're adults and one moves out, be kind to yourself!

Feed the five month old more and go out everyday somewhere for the toddler

Thanks everyone, feel like I’m in survival mode, I did try the hip position with the sling but sadly she wriggled and cried and didn’t want to be in it!