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School Struggles

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Clareanscombe1964 · 29/06/2023 13:48

My dd started school last September and took to it like a pro. From day one we’ve had no tears, she’s excited and motivated to attend as well as doing things like her homework. She also loves her teachers. On those fronts it’s going really well!
The feedback from her teachers is great, they have on more than one occasions called out that she’s more mature than her classmates in terms of her behaviour, communication etc. It’s not a huge surprise as she’s always been very independent, likes to be grown up and is good talking about things/emotions etc.
Increasingly though she’s coming home feeling not so much unhappy but frustrated with her class. There are a number of times where she’s been upset at the behaviour of other kids which and I trust her as she speaks honestly at all other times, sounds like toddler nursery behaviour to be honest. Hitting, scratching etc. Weve always addressed it with her and mentioned when needed to the teachers. Otherwise we’ve said it’s ok to set boundaries and tell the teachers when it happens. They do help but often it doesn’t work and she now comes home probably 3 times a week saying she goes inside to play or rest to get away from
it which really makes me sad for her.
The last week or so she’s come home really frustrated at the behaviour in the classroom though. Her classmates are acting up, not listening to the teachers and it’s really getting her down. She also told me the teachers take her into the staff room
sometimes so she can read and do her work in a quiet environment because the other kids are always so disruptive.
Now I’m under no illusion here, while I know she wouldn’t lie about this stuff, this is a reception class so of course not all kids are going to be the same and it’s really a settling year. But I’m worried that if it doesn’t improve in her new class that it’s going to really start impacting her emotionally and academically. I’m not a super pushy parent but I want her to feel like she’s in an environment that she can learn, develop and grow. It’s almost the end of term so not much point raising it again now but I will raise it with her new teachers in Sept and see how the first few weeks go. But really if she comes home feeling the same then me and my husband have very tentatively talked about moving schools. We don’t want the upheaval for her unless necessary but i guess I’m looking to see if anyone else has experienced something similar, what helped in talking to the school, did you eventually move your child etc etc?

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
stickystick · 08/09/2023 19:01

Just noticed this - did no one reply or did you repost elsewhere?

I hope things are going better so far this term.

But, unfortunately, it’s a fact that all too often some kids are very disruptive and that stops the majority of kids who want to learn from doing so. There are some state schools, like Michaela, which have a zero tolerance/no excuses attitude to bad behaviour, but not enough (IMHO). Schools where teachers are spending hours of their time refereeing fights cannot deliver good education. So if that’s your school, move. If the teachers can’t control Reception age children, it’s not going to get better as your child moves up the school. And if the parents aren’t setting appropriate behavioural expectations for their children at that age, it’s not going to get any better as they get older.

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