Multiple children parents

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How do you manage with 3?
To cut a long boring back story short that'll loose you're interest,

How on earth do you split or share your time?
How many clubs/classes do you get them to attend?
and literally how do you manage this.. do you drag them all along to watch and try and entertain the other 2 without causing a scene.. while the other reluctantly joins in the class as they see you all doing "stuff" and want to join in with you, instead of the class you've brought them to?? 🤔

3. Do you socialise outside of your family unit on a regular basis? (We have the odd birthday, wider family event, occasionally see an old friend..but thats it)
4. How do you manage all of the above, work and keep ontop of a house without feeling absolutely exhausted!! Hoping I'm not the only one out there with no network to reach out to, feeling as I do and wondering how on eartg everyone else seeming does it looking fabulous at the same time 🤦‍♀️💪🤩

How old are your children OP?

DH and I take them for separate activities.
Batch cook and meal plan.
And basically you have to be super organised.

Get the kids to pitch in with chores. The downstairs is tidied before they go up for a bath. We have a daily chore slot when we all chip in for 20 mins and do chores. It’s basically non negotiable.

Needless to say DH pulls his weight and does a lot around the house and with the kids.

I don’t look fabulous though! Just eye liner and lip balm and I have a standard work wardrobe…

4DCs close in age here, now young adults. Looking back, having a cleaner always helped. 2 of mine could attend football practice at the same time. Away matches were a challenge if in different villages, but there was usually another parent in a similar predicament, so I could take their DS & they could take mine. I'll probably think of other solutions I used, so will get back to you.

1.5 4 and 6 years

Tough ages there. I have 3DC and a 4th on the way.

To some extent, yes they get dragged to each other's clubs. In our case that works quite well - my eldest does ballet at the community centre and there's a small playground outside and a large waiting room inside, so her brothers enjoy coming along. We organise what we can at school e.g. eldest has clubs after school, so no effect on siblings - she does yoga/dance/tennis on different days. During school holidays she comes along to things for her brothers, and is often assigned as "special helper", which she quite likes.

We juggle - DH and I have a weekly schedule for drop-offs and pick-ups.

We do socialise outside family, but I'll be honest we don't see our child-free friends much! But we see friends with similarly aged children plenty. If we do want to see a friend who's not a fan of children, we invite them to stay the night - that way we can spend time with them after the children are in bed. We rarely socialise without the children totally - it's just too hard!!! Obviously one of us can go out, but both at a time... only for weddings so far. I haven't found I miss it much though, maybe I'll feel more like it when the children are older. DH and I have had the odd "date afternoon" (date night too tough for babysitting), and we're often too tired anyway after 9pm

Oh, and the house is often a mess (tends to go in waves depending on work levels) and I look pretty slobby on my non-working days sometimes. Currently wearing jogging bottoms (haven't been arsed to get my maternity clothes out of the attic yet, 5 months now so most things don't fit well) and hair is scraped back into a bun as I wanted to do some of the grubbier housework stuff while my boys were napping. Planning to just brazen it out when I go out for school run! I bet once your youngest is 3+ you and your house will be much tidier. The important people won't judge you.