My husband is normally a pretty laid back person but he has a horrible temper when pushed over the edge.
Ive noticed he is being quite aggressive towards our 4 year old daughter who has autism, she understands but can’t talk yet. If she is messing about e.g not doing as she’s told etc he can really shout at her and I’ve noticed he grabs her by her arms quite roughly.
The worst times are bedtime. She has habit of not sleeping and sometimes can be up for hours in the night. Last night she was up from 02.30 till 06.00. I understand how exhausting it can be when your child won’t sleep especially when you have work the next day but last night when one of the times my husband went through, he shouts at her to “go to sleep” “ stop fucking messing about” another time he pushed her down by the shoulders quite roughly, he almost held her up and threw her back on her bed, yelling at her to “shut up!” I saw it on the baby monitor. She was so upset. I ran through and cuddled her till she eventually fell asleep on me, both of us in tears.
I’m not sure what to do. I feel very uncomfortable this morning about it all. I understand children especially 4 year olds are meant to push our buttons but I feel it’s gone too far now. He apologised to me this morning but has ignored our daughter.