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Stbxh taking child away in uk, gutted.

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whatamess100 · 27/06/2023 21:37

He's taking our child (7) away to cornwall which is over 4hrs away from where we live i'm the resident parent, he has our child 2 nights a month and 2 half days a week alternate weekends so he doesnt have him alot at all.

He's taking him away with OW and her family, i haven't got a problem with that as such but she is always causing trouble and she hates me with a passion but theres nothing i can do about that. I just i don't trust him, he's not put our child first at all in the last 15 months and he shows no care or love towards him, he comes across as just going through the motions with him. She and her children have come first throughout.

I dont trust he will keep and eye on him. Alother issue i have is we are almost no contact, i can't even txt to ask how he is as he won't reply so while he is away there will be no contact between me and our child. This is bothering me and also i dont even now where he is taking him.

Im just really stuggling with not knowing where he is going, and the no contact. Its been me and our son for the last 15 months, ive been mum and dad to him, we've been through thick and thin, he's stuggled terrible since the seperation so not having him for a week is going to be incredibly hard.

My Son wants to go i should add but i don't think he realises i can't just go and get him if he decided he's had enough. But he says he wants to go and its his needs before my own.
I know he will have a good time but i just wish he wasn't going.

No idea why im posting, i just dont have anybody to talk to and im feeling sad.

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 27/06/2023 21:44

Does your son have an iPad so you can FaceTime him ?

doozledog · 27/06/2023 21:47

No but i have a onld iphone ive just ordered a payg sim to send with him.

firsttimemum1230 · 27/06/2023 21:49

How old is your son, a 9 year old I know has a phone and at mums house so dad can call without mum needing to be bothered vice
versa.

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GrazingSheep · 27/06/2023 21:54

@doozledog
Name change fail?

doozledog · 27/06/2023 22:03

Oh, for godness sake, I've no idea why this keeps happening when i post.

He's 7, and i will set a phone up.

Can i ask him to give me the address of where they are going for peace of mind? Not that it will change much but I'd feel better knowing where he is i case of an emergancy.

Gcsunnyside23 · 27/06/2023 22:17

I would ask for the address, there is no harm in it. And if he says no then I would put an app on your son's phone so you check where he is for peace of mind or loses the phone. We use life360, it's great

doozledog · 28/06/2023 07:50

The app sounds a great idea!

Mummumgem · 28/06/2023 08:15

How long is he going for ?, 2 or 3 days ok but insist on address etc any longer and I would say no.

all children that age would want to go, a trip to the seaside who wouldn’t!, but I just can’t see him coping with more than a couple of days, how does he get on with the other children? What are the sleeping arrangements? You say she doesn’t get on with you but how is she with your son?

GrazingSheep · 28/06/2023 08:22

Will his dad let him have the phone ?

MrsCarson · 28/06/2023 08:58

The phone is a great idea, and make sure to turn on find my phone and connect it to your phone. Just being able to look at what town they are in or the beach they are on without calling and disrupting anything will give you peace of mind.

doozledog · 28/06/2023 11:27

He's going for 6 days, the most he's had him is 3 days. Im trying not to be irrational about it.

doozledog · 28/06/2023 16:48

He gets on with her child but not the other child going.

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