Hello,
I just wanted some advice please.
for the past 15 years all my partners family, his mum, dad, sister and brother have been nothing but horrible to me. I don’t take it personal they are like this with other people not just me. Iv tried and tried to be friends and Iv forgiven loads but I’m 15 years down the line now and Iv just, if I’m honest had enough.
I never fall out with anyone, I just keep myself to myself and I actually really love being friends with everyone in my life. I have no enemies apart from my husbands family. The less drama the better but with this family, you just cannot stay friends with them for long. You’re always doing something wrong and basically Iv just had enough. I just want to be free from the drama.
any way my reason for writing on here is we have two beautiful children, so lovely and happy. I don’t want them seeing any upset. It’s not fair on their little heads is it. The world is hard enough without watching your mum argue with their Nan, auntie, uncle etc.
they just have always felt like ‘Iv taken my husband away’ from them even though we have spent a hell of a lot of time with them, christmas’, birthdays, time in-between, they are a very small family but Iv made so many sacrifices for them and I’m just fed up now to be honest. If you’re not talking to them, involving yourself in everything they aren’t happy. His mum even said to me if we were ever having problems in the bedroom
department I should talk to her 😳
Like I said I just want to be happy.
my husbands mum was horrible to me again a few years back and Iv completely distanced myself. Iv just basically said I don’t want anything to do with them as it’s not worth my happiness. my husband completely understands he has nothing against my decision. He says himself he’s always on pins around his mum in case she is horrible to him but I understand he wants contact with her and that’s fine. Other family members have also cut contact with his mum, her own mum and dad, my husbands mum and dad, my husbands cousin and family, it’s not just me that doesn’t have any contact with his mum. She only speaks to her husband, daughter, son and my husband again now:
Like I said she’s hard work and doesn’t get on with many but the daughter (husbands sister) is so awful towards me. If my husbands mum falls out with me or is horrible and I stick up for myself she instantly is no longer my friend. She has no interest in letting me have my say, she just point blank falls out with me.
this has happened for years and years now and im fed up of being treat this way.
I just want happiness especially for my little ones and I work so hard to make their life nice.
any way my husband had fallen out with his mum due to her being so nasty again, she said she was stressed and we should have understood that’s why she took it out on us and if she had just said ‘sorry I was stressed’ I wouldn’t have minded but she basically said again that we should take her nastiness and that’s that. So I’d had enough. Then the daughter stopped talking to me and wrote lots of awful stuff on social media about me that was untrue and I’m just so lucky that people know me and more importantly know them and know the whole thing was lies as things like that can be so damaging but she said she was drunk and that’s why she did it.
iv never had an apology I’m just told it’s been two years now and I should get over it.
I really don’t want my lovely children around this environment. They are like this with everyone not just me and I don’t want my little ones seeing this behaviour. I know you can’t stop your children seeing the real world but they treat me like I’m just crap basically and I don’t want my little ones around them. I think they are really awful people and I can’t help how I feel. I have so many valid reasons I won’t even bore you with.
my husband has been seeing his mum and dad with our children and I’m really happy for him, I don’t want him to have no memories with them but now his sister who has been the most vile towards me now wants to start spending time with my children and I just don’t feel comfortable with it.
Am I in the wrong as she is their auntie? She doesn’t care if she has treat me bad she just say well I’m their auntie and that’s that? She also has made a comment how disgusting I am even though when her mum stopped talking to her own mum she then stopped her daughter seeing her nan which was so sad to see her nan so sad and she never saw her again as she passed away around 8 months later.
can someone help me here please.
I don’t want to use my children as weapons but the thought of them being around her makes me feel physically sick. She is so awful towards me and I just think why would I want someone like you around my two lovely children?
please help and I’m so sorry for the long essay!