8 month old won’t go to bed without mum!

[Steph95]

Hi mums netters,

desperate mum for advice here, I am a FTM to a beautiful 8 month old baby boy who naps and sleeps amazing my issue is about a month ago he started to refuse his bed time bottle by anyone but me including dad and family. So my issue is he essentially won’t be put to bed by anyone but me… he can self sooth and ho down awake ect he is more then happy for anyone to do his bath and dressing but as soon as it comes to the bottle he refuses and gets super fussy acting as tho he doesn’t not want it and my partner has put him down after this he obviously cries but as soon as I go in he will drink the whole 9onz bottle or say his dad trying to do do his bed time bottle and his fussy and I go in he will happily take it off me and drink it all and go down no problem and sleep well all night. I wouldn’t be worried but I’m back at work in a week and have to work evenings so i will not be there to do his bed time I’m just confused was never a issue till 4 weeks ago I’m really stressing about going back to work…
side not he will happily go down for naps but anyone but me just bed time HELP 😢

Is this seperation anxiety? How do I manage this hate the thought of me being at work on a eve and he cries

Lean in to it. It's what he needs now but will pass. Consider putting something that smells of you near his head when you put him down, because he attaches to you through the senses.

This is very usual. My 2 year old only wants me for bed. If she knows i'm in the house she'll just cry and cry for me, but if she knows I'm out and not an option, she will eventually settle for dh (begrudgingly).

Have you tried popping out of the house for bedtime? If not, maybe try. Give your lo a cuddle and explain you're going out and daddy will be putting them to bed and physically leave the house. It might take a few tears and some repeated attempts, but it can sometimes make the difference.

Good luck!

Its normal and its ok. Be there while you can. When you are back to work she will adjust, or this phase may have already passed on its own. They change quite quickly at that age.

Aria2015 thanks I might try this! I did mention to my partner about doing the whole bed time bath ect as I have been doing bath and he been doing dressing bottle so possibly is he knows I’m still there.. like I say I love doing his bed time and when I am home want to do it but I have a week left of work so I think I will try that for next few nights and have a walk to the local shop at bed time.

TinyTeacher - yeah I agree they change massively I’m it one to belive all these leaps and regressions but just googled and says he is supposedly going through some who knows is it. Think I’m just going to have to stick to dad doing bath and bed for the next few nights and hope he adjusts so I’m not at work on egg shells just so wierd until a month ago he went down fine mum or dad