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16 year old!! Help!!!

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Crocamoc · 24/06/2023 19:20

Hi all, think I need a place to vent and also some advice! I am a single parent to three girls who are 19, 16 and 8. 19 year old came home from uni last week. It’s been a rough few months - house sale fell through day before exchange and I can’t find a new buyer, my mum has started palliative chemo and I have fractured my arm. Since 19 year old came home, 16 year old has been AWFUL. Rude, ungrateful, disrespectful, demanding. She has ASD and I’ve tried to get alongside and acknowledge how hard the changes must be - sister coming home, school ending, college looming but nothing seems to work. Whenever I say no to anything, she loses it. She screamed at me for an hour today - said she no longer needs parents and I’m ruining her life - this is prom weekend where I’ve spent hundreds of pounds on dress, shoes, bag, nails and bought her a gig ticket for tomorrow night at the O2 and I’m taking her and a friend there and back. She hasn’t acknowledged any of it just furious because I said she couldn’t stay over at a party tonight (she was out last night, we are leaving for London early tomorrow and I offered to pick her up at 11pm tonight). I’m trying to keep a sense of humour and remember how awful I was at that age, but today my 19 year old said she’s hating being home and it’s making her feel overwhelmed and anxious because of her sisters behaviour, which makes me so sad. Everything is just really getting on top of me.

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Polik · 24/06/2023 19:28

Don't underestimate how stressful prom weekend is for a teenage girl.

(Especially when Mum foils your plans to drink too much in the afterparty, with her reasonable restrictions for valid and logical reasons)

I wouldn't read too much into thus until after prom has done. Girls (in particular) get a bit tetchy. Just grit your teeth and try to minimise on drama. Deal with the fallout next week when she can reflect on her behaviour

Crocamoc · 24/06/2023 20:17

Thank you! Prom was actually yesterday and she stayed over at a friends - she didn’t sleep at all, then text at 5pm this afternoon saying she wanted to go to stay over at another party tonight and would just “meet me at the train station tomorrow” 😬 I will try to grit my teeth and ignore the drama, I blew up today and feel awful about it. Funnily enough I went upstairs at 7:30pm to see if she wanted something to eat and she was fast asleep on her bed, fully clothed!! So much for partying!

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