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Crying before pre school

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Sweetpea1989 · 23/06/2023 07:57

My little one has just turned three and we had two half days settling in at school which went great, now I’ve gone for two full days and it started at 7:30am crying and refusing to put her school dress on, cried all the way to school and the teacher had to take her crying from me in the morning with her just sobbing ‘I don’t want to go to school’

This is totally out of character for her she is usually such a happy confident thing.

We are working parents and she has been with a childminder since she was 6 months old, never any issues, happily skips in every day.

I don’t know how to handle this, so I push through with school and hope the issue goes away, or do we have a break? I’m worried if we have a break she will not have a positive memory of school and we will have the same issue when it comes to trying again.

The teachers say she’s fine once she’s settled, can get a bit overwhelmed when everyone comes in from break time, it’s a small school so all ages mix. Some of the kids she went to the childminders now go there so it’s not like she doesn’t know a single soul.

I personally thinks she feels a bit awkward and shy which as we all know is not a nice feeling but she can’t articulate that and she’s not felt those feelings before, but who knows!

Advice greatly appreciated, as I cried all the way home from school yesterday :(

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GoneAway227 · 23/06/2023 08:04

It's a huge adjustment for her and it will take time.
My little boy started nursery last September (age 3) and it was exactly the same. He was so tearful and upset and really didn't want to go.
Fast forward to now and he loves it. We got back from a holiday on Friday morning and he actually asked if he could go to nursery in the afternoon! He's now excited to go and is so happy there.
It's horrible right now, but give it time.

Sweetpea1989 · 23/06/2023 09:46

Thanks! How long did it take for him not to be upset at going??

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pjani · 23/06/2023 14:12

Are you doing 2 days preschool and 3 at childminder? Could be that the mix is unsettling. I also think 2 days is tricky as 5 days off is a long time till it rolls around again.

Also, my DC took 2-3 weeks to settling into a fantastic, nurturing, high-staff ratio, small preschool and even some months in doesn’t want to go, though overall loves it and is thriving. I think you need to give it more time.

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Sweetpea1989 · 23/06/2023 09:46

Thanks! How long did it take for him not to be upset at going??

Probably about 3 months. We upped his hours after that and it got easier.

Mummumgem · 23/06/2023 21:10

It is hard, but she will settle these things just take a little time

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