Tips for DS who hates not being able to do something properly?

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Lovely DS is 5, very sensitive boy but generally doing well in reception and keeping up/making friends.

Since he was very small I've noticed he's had a huge fear of failure. Now it's starting to impact him more- won't try to ride a bike in case he 'doesn't do it properly'. Battle to read his school book every time, again because 'I might not do it right'

Anyone have any practical ideas to try and move past this?

Following for advice...this is my DS8! Heartbreaking isn't it!

You need to start letting him fail at things in a gentle way and let him see you fail.
Maybe play games and let him loose.
Keep encouraging him and stay positive in defeat .

It's perfectionism. My DD1 who is autistic suffers from it too.

First step: model a 'good enough' job. Make mistakes in front of your child. That'll do attitude.

Second step: read picture books about making mistakes.

Third step: mantra - only robots are perfect, humans are poorly if they try to be perfect

Fourth step: ask the teacher to make deliberate mistakes to model failure

Fifth step: read You Are Awesome to your child

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Sixth step: ask grandparents/godparents to model failure

You could try the book The Girl Who Never Made Mistakes.

Thank you so much, particularly @stargirl1701
I will give those things a try 🙏🏻