Hey. I'm sorry if I posted in the wrong topic. Not sure what bracket it comes under. Anyways......
So. My daughter (4) started a new school in november, another girl started in December (age 4) my daughter with her caring loving nature decided to take her under her wing and became best friends.
Then a few weeks went by and I noticed we lived on the same street.
Roll on MONTHS later, we walk to school every morning and walk back after school every day. We often have play dates etc.
So... here's the thing.
Over the last 4 months, possibly longer, said child who I will call... "lia" for this purpose. Has become a absolute pain in my arse!
As soon as we meet up in the morning, lia becomes so incredibly nasty to my daughter, she gives her the most dirtiest looks ever! She will not let my daughter go near her mum, or hold her mums hand.
If my daughter wears a white tshirt and skirt to school, lia will kick off and say nasty things to my daughter, just because lia isn't wearing the same.
If my daughter has a different hair style, lia will kick off, again being super nasty etc all because she doesn't have the same hair style!
After school.... as soon as my daughter comes out of school, she instantly comes and cuddles me saying lias been mean to her and tripped her up.
I always bring my children snacks after school, and every single bloody day with out fail lias mum 'forgets' snacks for her kids, so when I give my children their snacks... lia instantly comes up to my daughter stomping her feet and crossing her arms saying 'IM HUNGRY' literally every day! My daughter is just the sweetest caring girl ever so my daughter will give lia her snack as my daughter knows I have 2 snacks for my children, each.
, she's been telling my daughter that people will climb in her bedroom window at night, people will take her if she's alone at the park, she's told my daughter that there's a man under her bed who will take her.. proper nasty vile things. All of this has been going on I would say since January and it's only getting worse. Every single day my daughter gets upset on the way to school and its heart breaking to see my bubbly girl, go into a shell every day.
My daughter absolutely loves lia, and gets upset if we don't walk with her in the mornings and walks home with her.
I am 13 weeks pregnant and hormones are all over the place.. I've purposely made myself late in the mornings so we haven't walked with them monday and Tuesday. But today we walked together and lia was vile to my daughter, kicking off because my daughter has new school shoes on, then my daughter was being a pickle so we ended up having words.
And now I've come away really fed up, really upset that this is a constant thing! I've told my daughter that I never want to stop her being friends with lia, but if lia carries on telling lies about people coming to take my daughter, etc etc and if she's carry on being nasty then I will put a stop to walking together and play dates.
I've spoken to the school and they monitor it as they see lia giving my daughter filthy looks from across the classroom and pulling her chair away etc. But they have said they are fine 90%of the time in school.
I have also mentioned all of this countless of times to lias mother and she does tell lia off and say she's not going to have any friends etc if she carry on. But now I'm so fed up with it all, I've said to my husband enough Is enough now.
Tomorrow my kids are in breakfast club, and Friday I will make some excuse as to why we're not talking together
But my question is.... how the he'll to I approach this? Again...?
I don't want to be that annoying person thats like, your daughters being mean to mine.
And I know I'm her mum so I have to say this but the thing is, my daughter is honestly the most sweetest caring, loving bubbly girl ever. She doesn't have a nasty bone in her body. The most horrible thing my daughter has said is she hates her brother... but lias been telling her mum that my daughters said she wishes lia was dead, someone's going to steal lia etc. My daughter has no clue about people snatching people so she just wouldn't say that at all!!
How do I tell lias mum that enough is enough now? With out falling out as we are friends. And the kids are friends, I wish they weren't but they are! Help!!!!