At least I think that's what this is anyway...
DC is in year 4 so kids all turning 9. One child birthday is right at the end of August and their mum sent a text today inviting DC to their party which is an afternoon tea kinda thing, hot tub, movie and sleepover. Starts at 2pm.
Although DC has known child since they were 2 and at nursery, they've never had a play date, not heard DC say they've played with this child much over the years and I've probably spoken to the mum maybe 5/6 times in 7 years, mainly just a hello in the playground. DC did go to this child's party in reception class (whole class invited and parents stayed).
When I told DC I'd got the text they wasn't that bothered about going, I'd straight up said no to the sleepover but said maybe they could go for the afternoon, but as the day has gone on they've over thought it and I think now feel bad for saying they don't fancy it.
Dc is supposed to also be with my friend that day and her kids as we do a child care swap in the holidays - something I think she would prefer to the party.
How do I get a straight answer from her? If she really wanted to go for a bit I could work it out, however if she wanted to come home I don't think she'd feel comfortable telling this child's mum and she don't have a mobile phone yet to call me.
I don't mind if she don't go or just for the pm but I don't want to leave the mum hanging even though it's 2 months away as I think that's a bit out of order.
I am a flapper with things like this sometimes and like DC hate feeling like I might upset someone so I try my best not to let this rub off on her.
Any advice?