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Neighbour’s son mean to DS

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AlexaCeve · 19/06/2023 19:55

Hello,
I’m looking for some advice on how to deal with our neighbours son who is two years older (5 1/2) than DS (3 1/2 years). We get along well with his parents and we sometimes invite each other round for coffee and a play date as well as helping each other out with various things over the past 3 years.

However, the past 5 or so meetings our neighbour’s son has been what I would describe as just plain mean to DS. E.g calling him to come and play over the fence, waiting for him to pop his shoes on and then telling him he’s changed his mind. Making a point of saying he doesn’t like his top/new toy/treat. Devising games only he can possibly win because he is bigger/faster etc. DS ends up frustrated or upset.

Our neighbours (one is a primary teacher) always mildly chastise their boy, but with zero effect. He totally ignores them and they shrug.

It’s got to the point I try think of excuses not to go over or invite them round but it’s a shame- I get on with the parents & there’s no other young children on our road. I also don’t want to create an awkward vibe with our next door neighbours! Both kids are an only child.

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frootie · 19/06/2023 20:00

I have the same dynamic with my neighbours DD. My advice is just to endlessly support your DS. After something like the playing / not playing thing say loudly, oh that's not very nice is it! Never mind DS let's go and get a treat. Just keep showing this kid that you don't like their treatment of your DC. And show your DS you are on his side.

AlexaCeve · 19/06/2023 20:08

Thanks- that’s a helpful way to look at it. This weekend I said ‘oh well, now we’ve got our shoes on let’s walk down the road and get an ice cream!’

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Wrennie24 · 19/06/2023 20:10

And I hope the other child heard you saying that!

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