I've had the gripe with DH since DD was a few months old that he always seems to be glued to his phone when he's supposed to be looking after her. He's always argued that it must just be the times I see him because he's not doing it most of the time he's with her, and that when he is it's doing "something" rather than just casually scrolling through social media.
I do 80% of the parenting. I do most meals, I do 99% of bedtime routines and I do all the actual going to bed and resettling because DD is breastfed. My point is, he gets a lot of free time when he could be doing the stuff he claims to be doing when he's got DD.
Today I was going to go and do a couple of jobs in the house and he said he'd mind her in the front room while I did. I was waiting for him to get off his phone because DD was stood right next to our glass shelves and he seemed oblivious to redirecting her. I had to ask him to do whatever it was later and pay attention to our toddler. I also saw out the window as they were in the garden, her in the swing and him just sitting in front of her completely engrossed in his phone while she was looking to me.
If I say anything I get an earful about how I'm being dramatic. DD is 14 months so is more than aware of when she's being ignored and that a phone is apparently more interesting than a person. And I know DH is shopping rather than doing anything actually important.
How would you deal with this given it's been going on for a year?