I am so worried

[Katiepop]

My 9 year old son just came out of school and was in a mood . I assisted him and his cousin into the back of the car as I have a 7 seater he started hitting the window with his metal drinks bottle with some force . I asked him to stop and calm down but he continued to do it so I leant into the back as I was putting my younger son in the car and held his wrist so I could take the bottle out of his hand but I left a mark I didn't think I held his wrist hard. Now I am so worried it's making me feel ill. I asked did I hurt him when I held his wrist which he said no but I don't know what to do

Ok, so either:

• youheld him right enough to leave a mark
• he already had a mark there

He said you didn't hurt him. Assuming you believe him, it doesn't sound like something to lose sleep over.

It isn't great that youfelt you had to grab hiswrist. But the thing to do isntonconsider how you could have handled that situation differently.

I think you are worrying too much. Your son was putting himself and others in danger of serious injury so you needed to restrain him. Not sure what else you could have done.

I was worried he was going to smash my car window . Yes I should of handled it differently.

Your son was putting himself and others in danger of serious injury so you needed to restrain him. Not sure what else you could have done.

Absolutely this.

What would have been worse op, would have been if you didn't intervene, and he'd smashed the window covering himself and his cousin in broken glass. You acted as anyone else would to stop a dangerous situation. Like if your kid ran out in front, you'd pull, push, grab them out the way, potentially injuring them, but avoiding them getting hit and more injured. It's all about risk assessment, and in the fear of the moment, you reacted in a way any normal parent would have.

Did you do it out of anger or to stop him from hurting someone/breaking the window?

No not out of anger . I asked him to stop and asked for the bottle but he kept doing it