too attached to dummy

[MummaLeonax]

Hello everyone,
please may I have a bit of advice to start weaning my 2year old off his dummy he never used to bother with it as much but the last month or so he is attached to it, I try to occupy him and say he's a big boy now he doesnt need it, play with him and his toys but still tries to look for it then cries for it I dont know whether to go cold turkey or a more lighter way for him he still has it at bed time which I dont mind then cause its the only comforter he has doesnt have a teddy/blanket.
Thank you kindly x

Dummy fairy - let him choose a toy that will be waiting for him the next morning - make sure you throw all of his dummies to the bottom of the wheelie bin so you're not tempted to give him one back! Good luck.x

literally I keep giving in because he cries so much for it and find it hard because he doesnt understand yet if you get me, thank you very much lovely x

My 2 year old only has it for sleep now. Every morning when she leaves her bedroom/ upstairs she has to leave her dummy. Few tears the first times but it’s just our routine now. I let her take a teddy or book downstairs instead which she likes and it’s a good distraction. Lots of talk about how dummy is only for sleeping. Sometimes she lies and says she wants to go to sleep so she can have her dummy ha!
will have to face removing it at night time soon, dummy fairy sounds like the way to go for that.

My three and a half year old granddaughter has finally given her dummy to the dummy fairy. She got a superb bribe reward from the dummy fairy and a personal letter in response. She was very proud!

Cold turkey would mean only doing it once, but does also sound like it would be a bit rough!

My mum sewed my sister's into her pjs and said that was how big girls had them. Seemed to do the trick. I don't see the harm with having one at night (asuming the dummy isn't causing sleep disruption) so I guess I'd try to reduce it to sleep times.

BUT having said that, 2 years is often a really hard time to remove a comforter e.g. lots of mums that breastfeed say their toddlers suddenly start asking to nurse all the time. You could leave it a couple months and see if the dependency reduces on its own? Depends how much it is annoying you.

My (then) 3 year old was very attached to her dummy. We took it away cold turkey and the confident bubbly little girl, was a complete and nervous wreck. So we gave it back.

Made a rule that it was nap time and bed time only. After a few weeks, we was able to take it away completely and she was fine.

Sometimes, toddlers need them.

Thank you for the advice everyone really do appreciate it 🤗 i think I will leave it a couple of months so he can understand more about not having it just for nap/bed time, he's never had a comforter like a teddy or blanket so that's why he's so attached to his dummy I think, Its not annoying me that he has it I just get worried about his teeth pushing out and the health visitor/people telling me about it 🙈 I was also thinking of a good bribe reward present 😂 x

You just have to be firm but consistent. Taking it away, saying big boys don’t need it, then giving it back because he whinged isn’t helping. It’s confusing for him and of course he’s going to cry for it when he knows that it works. He will be fine without it. My DS is the same age and he knows it lives in his bed and the car (can’t take distractions while I’m driving!). Yes he did cry for it at first but I just ignored that and suggested playing something else when he was ready. It’s important for speech to cut back.