Acceptable Noisy Times

[Karenofallkarens]

I have just recently moved house and currently struggling to enjoy the new house because the neighbours behind me have three VERY noisy kids!
I totally get that noise is expected, especially if there are children and in the summer months things will be noisier and I think I am generally quite tolerable, I am happy to keep the door shut and try to drown out the noise most days and turn a blind eye to it, in fact its actually quite refreshing to hear kids playing still instead of stuck on computers etc.
My issue lies with the fact that my bedroom is at the back of the house facing on to the garden, I have had the windows slightly open because of the warmer weather, and they let their kids play in the garden screaming at the top of their lungs very high pitched and very early. I was woke up yesterday at 06:50am by their kids screaming and shouting and there was no attempt to stop or limit the noise by the parents. I shut my windows and could still hear them very loudly.
This is probably the 4th time in 5 weeks that their kids have woke me up on the weekends between 06:30 and 07am and its starting to frustrate me.
I know everyone will have different opinions on this, but am I right in thinking that this time is unreasonable for kids to be screaming at weekends??

6.50am is ridiculous and far too early. I’d have no issue with happy kids playing but please, not in the garden before 9.

Definitely too early. I don't let kids out into the garden until at least 9am usually, and mine aren't really screechers!

So annoying but - not much comfort - things change very quickly with kids so if you don’t want to make a fuss just know they will not always be like this.

It's three girls, and they seem to be all fairly young, one is a baby and isn't the noise culprit, it's the two older ones...and they are MEGA screamers! High pitched ear piercing loud screamers.
I am so glad that it's not just me being moany lol!

This. It’s selfish and anti-social

There's no way to block out screaming and shouting - they must be disturbing so many other houses too.

Happy kids playing is fine, but screaming, shouting, and making a racket isn't ok.

This...the layout is almost like two rows of terraced houses who's gardens all back on to each other so everyone must be able to hear it! My next door neighbour has mentioned it to me before as well and said she goes outside in the garden in the morning with a coffee and all she can hear is screaming.

Honestly...during the day i can just about tolerate it, but when it wakes me up on the weekend I want to scream back out my window at them haha

Children shouldn't be allowed to scream at the top of their lungs at any time, anywhere. It's absolutely ridiculous. It's lazy parents who don't bother to teach their kids to have respect for other people.

I would hate this. My kids are teenagers now but I would have never let them out before 9am at the weekend. My kids weren't screamers thankfully but I always told them to keep it down if they got too excitable.

I think I would send a letter to the parents to be honest.

We don't let ours out until 9am. And even then it's a last resort. If we can, we do other things until later, but I feel 9am is reasonable. No screaming though.

My kids are teens now - but my limits were - no outside play until 9am and no outside play after 7pm … I also always tried to take them out everyday to burn off some energy . One of my kids was a football addict and would literally spend hours booting a ball into the net .. looking back my neighbours were very tolerant !

I don’t let mine out before 9.30 on a weekend, that’s way too early

Far too early. 9am was the rule when my kids were little. And screaming was not allowed at anytime. It’s not difficult to teach your kids to be respectful to others.

Sorry, you have this to contend with - we had similar neighbours once. My DC was in the same class at school as one of their kids. Would you believe it the mum was a child psychologist who worked with some of the pupils at school. She actually gushed with pride when I slipped into a conversation how I could hear her children whenever they were playing in the garden. Bear in mind we lived a fair distance down the road.

I used to walk back home with her child minder - she said they were practically feral. The boys used to literally pull their pants down and pee where ever they felt the need. Including in the house. No house rules or discipline whatsoever.

Parents fault 100%.

I used to remind myself they don’t stay children forever. Luckily my neighbours moved before then.

I let the dogs out this past Sunday at 7am. I heard my neighbour talking quietly to his three year old son outside in their garden (terraced houses). These people like to entertain and have bbqs most weekends, but they know that 7am on a weekend is too early to be running around shouting!
Screaming as you describe would be annoying at any time of day.

6.50 is totally unacceptable. My mum's neighbours do this to her all the time, they seem to think they live in a detached house in the middle of nowhere rather than on a housing estate. They are entirely lacking in self awareness. I have DD3 and she is not allowed outside to play until 9 or later on a Saturday and I try to make it later on a Sunday. When she does play out and I know my neighbours are also outside I make sure she doesn't make excess noise. I think it's good to teach self awareness and consideration to children, they can still play and have fun without screeching and screaming.

I don't let mine out until 10am on the weekends for this precise reason. (Now feeling like maybe I'm a bit hardcore though and 9am would be ok!)

I've had kids (who are now too old for this to apply to) and now live surrounded by small children (40% are screamers like you say).

I didn't let mine out until at least 8.30, bit later on Sundays, and if they screamed and shouted they were told to stop or brought back in.

The kids here generally start at 8.30/9 but are mega noisy, and they carry on until 9/10pm in the school holidays which gets a bit trying.

I would be pretty pissed off if it started pre 7am, yanbu.

I actually think 9am is a bit hardcore for quiet outdoor playing, mine have been outside from 8 on these warm summer weekdays before dd goes to school. I'd never let them scream though and it would be more like 9 on a Sunday for sure. Pre 8am never.

Its not forever, they'll quieten down and sleep in later as time goes on.
In the meantime, you could swap bedrooms and sleep at the front of the house if there is a bedroom there.

Have you spoken to the parents about how its affecting you? I would have thought this is the first step...

Why do so many parents let their kids scream these days? I was always told off if I did it. Of course it was fine to do it in the park, beaches, countryside etc.

Probably it’ll go down like a lead balloon. Babies and young children fine to scream but older ones really not, there’s no need.

This would annoy the life out of me and I would have to say something. Maybe a letter through the door or an anonymous post on a local FB group or similar.

I accept children will play etc but at a decent time even early morning if they are quiet and it's only playing. Screeching/screaming at any time is not ok!

But different but my old neighbours used to be out 7 am onwards with hedge trimmers / lawnmowers etc and a letter through the post worked wonders. They would hold off until about 9 after this. Retired couple and they had an immaculate garden. I used the letter so there was no bad feelings between neighbours. they did mention afterwards they had got it and hadn't realised they were causing an issue and to this day I still don't know if they know it was me.

I just kept it polite and asked if they could possibly hold off until a bit later in the morning especially at weekends. I explained that we work long hours all week and like a bit of a lie in at weekends. Possibly something similar for you, explain you don't mind them playing in the garden and actually like hearing it but could they keep the noise down until later in morning. Worst case scenarios it just gets worse best case scenario they keep the kids indoors until a reasonable time or at least tell them to keep the noise down.

She probably has in the 7 months since the thread started.

I'm suffering the same thing with 3 girls next door. I am made to feel the moany neighbour but I think they're disrespectful. I have attached an image of the response to a msg I sent yesterday....its really affecting my mental health...what would you all do?