Struggling with only having one

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Hi all
I hope you can help.
I have one child and I’m really struggling with that fact. I would really like to have another but I’m 40 and scared something might go wrong and upset our family as it is, however I can’t get out of my head that I want another one. Initially I thought it was to give my son a sibling which in part it is, but the more I think about it, the more I would like a second one. My husband isn’t keen, he grew up an only child and can’t see and reason to have another one. He would do it for me but that is he only reason and he also said that there would be a time limit as in he’s not trying forever. I’ve had quite a few losses so I know that a positive test doesn’t guarantee a baby and at my age the risks are higher. Anyone been in this situation? Did you manage to make peace with one having one or did you have another and it was ok? I’m going to counselling for this and the trauma I’ve suffered over that last few years. Help please.

We have an only child... young adult now. It wasn't through choice and I struggled in the early years, but now I am so grateful that it turned out like that and wouldn't change it for the world.

I can echo MrsBennets comments above.
Imagined that I would have at least 2 - but it didn’t happen.
I call our DD a Limited Edition and am grateful to have her. We’ve always tried to give her ‘safe freedom’ and she is now a confident, very sociable and lovely 21 year old, studying abroad on her own.
My advice would be to try to enjoy every stage with DS. It’s precious time - but lovely!

Limited edition... love it!

Aw I love Limited Edition. 😍
we have a little miracle after years of trying and loss etc - I do often wonder how it would have having another but realistically could be another long emotional journey and I don’t want to risk that and possibly miss time with our little one of that makes sense. Just want to enjoy our time as much as possible. Also in my 40s and feel so lucky and blessed to finally have a happy and healthy child.

we also had to go private ivf so definitely wouldn’t be paying again… so I’ve just tried to hard to come to peace with the one and actually I’ve met soem mums of similar age and situation and we’ve become good friends so maybe our littles will grow up together :)

Aww, love the limited edition
we also have one… I always wanted 2, but life didn’t worked that way…
she’s happy, confident, has a great sense of humour
look, grass is always greener - if you really want another and your husband is onboard, there’s always adoption - which honestly it’s the most selfless thing you could do
but believe me, an only child has lots of advantages, if anything you don’t have to potty train or deal with toddler tantrums once you’re past them