girls who love their dads

[sailingduo]

am going spare, my 20 month old daughter is besotted by her father. when he's around she doesn't want to know me' 'daddy, daddy, daddy', all the time. i just feel as if i'm being rejected. anyone else had the same experience?

That's lovely

Both mine are real Daddy's girls.

It's especially lovely when they insist he bath them, dress them, brush their teeth etc etc...

hi sailing, don't worry, this is perfectly normal. My 2yr old ds still wants his daddy all the time! In my case I think its because I'm at home all day with him and he only sees dh in the evenings & weekends!

It is hard to start with but tbh, but now I love the chance of having a break

It's not rejection. He is a novelty - you're there all the time, he isn't.

I'll bet it's you she comes running to if she hurts herself ...

My 11 month old dd is the same. Its as if I'm not there when dh is in the room. When he comes in he gets huge smiles and cuddles and giggles, the full cute baby works, when he leaves the room she screams the place down. I barely get a reaction. Knarks me off sometimes, but I try not to let it bother me too much, some girls are just complete daddies girls I think. I don't think its concious rejection certainly! You're not alone anyway...

its great i love it as well.
my dd1 was sick in the middle of the night and i was hugging her, and she wouldn't settle, until finally she managed to muster 'i want daddy'. so daddy took her and she happily snuggled up to him and fell asleep.

i am still a daddy's girl,and he would do anything for me

DD1 is and always has been totally besotted with Daddy- he can do no wrong in her eyes.

DD2 is a mummy's girl so it evens out!

Yes, clever post, bernard

Things go in stages, sailing. At certain points of development, children appear to favour a certain parent. She's obviously a bright soul, because children tend to favour the parent who isn't the primary carer at about 2.6 or later.

Don't worry. It will come and go .. and it's also to do with the difference in gender.

From the age of 7 to 14, she will want you exclusively to herself. From 0 to 7 she's more likely to be a Daddy's girl. Obviously, it works in reverse if you have a son.

and dd2 is daddy's girl since day one. when we come home (we work together), we hear screams and jumps and they all run past me straight to daddy!!!!

thanks for all thatthe problem i feel however is that i am not 'around all the time' as i workif i was there everyday and he was the only one who was around just in the evneings and weekends then i would feel better!

so you can rest assured that work or no work, theres a good chance your dds would be running to daddy anyways.

Lol, yes, good point bernard, its a great thing that she runs to her daddy the minute he appears through the door. And stays with him the rest of the night...

OK, so I guess my post didn't make you feel too good because you work full time, and you feel guilty about it. Well don't!

Sailing, honestly ... it's just like that with kids. Daughters adore their fathers and sons adore their mothers. In between, there is much, much love both ways.

Believe me, when she's seven, she won't leave you alone. In the meantime, be consistent. You will be the rock she turns to when she's a long leggeddy gal

And at 14, (she will be a pain in the arse at 14, naturally), she will love you equally ... even though you will both be completely clueless to the fact

I think it's worth taking FULL ADVANTAGE of

IMO, it probably won't last forever... as someone else said, girls grow up needing their Mum (or female influence) more as they get older.

And, on a serious note, I bet you'd be feeling more worried if your little girl had no interest in her Daddy

Sailing, mine's the same. She was like it when I was on mat leave with ds, and she's like it now I'm working away 3 days a week and dh is the primary carer.

I try not to care but it does get to me. But then, ds has always preferred me (and much more violently) so I guess it all evens out.

i just went to tell dh i'm going for a shower and found him and dd1 asleep hugging

awwww

Damn, I was coming on to make the point desderida has made beautifully
My dad (a child psychologist) said both me, my sister & my two brothers did the 'parent swop' thing pretty much perfectly (give or take a few months)
As adults, I'd say both girls remain closer to dad, both boys closer to mum.

dd is also a daddy's girl - even as a tiny thing, daddy coming home was the highlight of her day - now (nearly 2) she squeals when his keys go into the lock and starts jumping around singing daddy, DADDY, DAAADDDDYYYYYY
She is especially keen on him in the middle of the night (such a shame...)

SadlyLuckily ds is a mummy's boy, so it evens out!

I assume she's your first? When ds (my first) went through an anti-mummy stage I was gutted so I totally understand how you feel. With the second one you take all the breaks you can