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Ex introducing a new parter to our children

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Grasshopper57 · 14/06/2023 22:51

First time poster, bit of advice needed please.... I have children with my ex and he has been dating a girl for a few months and now wanting to introduce her to them.
The issue is, he is a narcissist and serial cheater. He has cheated all of his life and cheated on me very badly over the whole of our relationship, including long term flings, casual hook ups and sex on nights out, even during lockdown and while I was pregnant (I left him the minute I found out of course!)

He is adamant that he is 'fixed' and would never do this again, but this is exactly what he told me when we met and he told a very convoluted version of his past.

I'm scared of the impact on our children, getting attached and hurt when it falls apart.

This is also not the first girl he has wanted to introduce, the last 2 relationships fell apart before it actually happened. He says he has been with this girl for 6 months and it is serious, but the timings don't add up with the previous girl he dated.

Bottom line...I feel it is too soon. Also, every part of me wants to sit with her and tell her at least some of truth of what he did to break our family up, as if I had know his true past I would have ran a mile.
I know I will likely come across as a psychopath, but don't believe he will deny anything and it will mean she truly knows what she is getting into before our children are involved.

Sorry so long, there's so much I could have added, very Jeremy Kyle series of events I'm afraid x

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flossysox · 14/06/2023 23:55

So sorry to hear of how he treated you OP. What a shit bag.

Based on his track record and 6 months being deemed too soon to introduce (in my opinion) I would tell him that it's too soon, and you want to give it more time.

When me and my ex split and he wanted to introduce his new gf (a year and a half later) I met with her first, just us two, and found that reassured me a lot.

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