Our first child sadly passed away in 2021 when I was 33 weeks pregnant. He has always, and will always, be a huge part of our family. We talk about him daily, have photos and mementos around the house etc.
Since his death we were very lucky to welcome a rainbow baby, our daughter who is now 10 months old.
Since she was born we obviously don't have the time to do certain activities to honour our son as we did before she was born. For example, I used to visit his grave 4/5 times a week, and now we manage to get there once a week (though that can be a push!) It fills me with enormous guilt, even though as I said, we still remember and talk about him at home everyday.
Now we're approaching his second birthday at the end of the month, and I want to do something special to honour him. Last year we spent the day going back and forth to his grave with different family members and close friends who left him little gifts and cards. The day was as lovely as it could be under the circumstances.
This year, again, I know that won't be possible with our little girl. But it's extremely important to me that he has a special day, just as his sister will on her birthday. Has anyone else been in a similar position and have any ideas of things we can do to celebrate him?
We unfortunately can't go away anywhere as his birthday falls on a Thursday and we only have his actual birthday booked off work.
Thank you all for your help xx