Mum guilt.. advice needed

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My DD1 is 9 months and just started crawling and into EVERYTHING... i can't take my eyes off her for a millisecond.

My partner is out of house between 7am- 6pm so I am obviously parenting single handedly.

I also work from home but it's fairly low maintenance job so I just do few emails etc when she naps.

I am feeling really guilty that I am not playing with her/ entertaining her as much as I should.

I try to give her as much time as I can of sitting in the nursery and reading to her/ singing/ playing etc but I'm exhausted and I am finding I am doing more scrolling on my phone whilst she rolls around on the floor.... and I feel guilt for the fact I'm not being fully present 100% of the time but .... is that even realistic?

Not really sure what I asking. I guess just reassurance that I'm not alone.

Any advice?

No it's not realistic to work and look after a little one. Use childcare.

How many hours are you contacted to work?

I found that age a little boring to be honest!

Get out and about - take her shopping/ errands etc

Go to playgroups (church halls usually have them).

When you’re at home try to get some chores done, you don’t have to “entertain” her 100% of the time. You hanging washing and her climbing into the washing basket will be very entertaining for her.

@DontBePassiveAggresive I own my own business. It's mainly admin in the day (probs 1-2 hours worth) and then I do my zoom appointments after she goes to bed 6-10pm x

@Hazelnuttella yes true... I feel like a bit of a slave to the nap schedule atm but yes I will definitely try

Call me a cringe-inducing Mary Poppins, but I think it's all about making boring household chores fun. DC loading the washing machine etc. I carried my DC around a lot in the sling at that age, and was narrating everything in a singsongy Cbeebies presenter voice.

Also, don't feel bad about working. I've always wfh whilst DC napped, would sometimes reply to an email quickly whilst they were playing.

I believe it's important for all children to be left to entertain themselves sometimes. We had a playpen when ours were little so I used to plonk them in there with toys etc. And would work around them, popping into and out of the room vacuuming and tidying, they knew I was there and could keep themselves occupied for a while.