9m Overnight Sleep - Help!

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My son has always been a pretty great baby and fairly decent at sleeping other than the usual regressions etc. The last couple of weeks though he's waking up a whole bunch through the night. I'll go in and shush him, then 10 mins later he's awake and crying again. Sometimes he won't even let me put him down again, just wakes up crying as soon as he's almost touching the mattress lol.

I don't want to sleep train by leaving him to cry, but I often work later in the nights or early mornings so that I can spend the days with him and still have a career so I could do with being less exhausted.

Any tips or tricks that might help us get him settled and waking up less? Or sleep training advice that doesn't leave him thinking I've abandoned him?! I'm not against co-sleeping, but I don't want him to get used to it and only want to sleep that way. (And that doesn't help for the time I'm trying to work!)

It's bloody hard isn't it. I remember going to work on exactly 14 minutes sleep and being a total zombie.

My just turned 1 year old has mostly been an amazing sleeper for the last 4 months but was a bit rough for a couple of months before that. I never sleep trained.

The only thing we did that really worked ... was have his cot in our room. It's not ideal and he is still in with us but it's the best way we all get sleep. Dark room and dummy.

Doesn't really wake much over night now but if he does I put my hand in, rub his back and help him find his dummy if needed.

Not great advice or a great solution. Hopefully, someone comes along with some better tips - but that's what worked for us

Could be simply that he's too hot in current weather?
Or getting ready to drop a nap? Generally newly disturbed sleep at night means they're ready to change daytime routine. At 9momths I'd expect most to be having short nap maybe 30mims in morning 9.30/10 ish, then either early lunch at 11.30 or a decent snack & napping at 12/12.30 for 1&1/2-2 hrs. Means they're ready for a full nights sleep by 7ish

We usually do a nap about 2.5 hours after wake-up, another 3 hours after he wakes from that nap, and then bed 3.5-4 hours after the end of the second nap. This is just based on his sleep cues and some article I had read. I hadn't considered he might need something different - thank you!

It's likely to be separation anxiety, it's quite common around this age.
You could temporarily try co-sleeping, it doesn't have to be long term. It's usually a phase that disappears.
It's hard going, my DD went through it from 8 months to 10/11 months and we co-slept. It was still tough though as she woke quite a lot but was sleeping through at 12 months and in her own bed.

You could tweak naps and see if that helps with the amount of night wakes. Most articles are generalised and every baby is different with amount of sleep, awake times etc.