3 year old pinching and biting

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Hello,
Can anyone advise on how to deal with constant pinching and biting.My son is 3 and nothing is working we keep telling him off and saying No Lound and clear.Our patience is starting to run out I also worry he will do something like that at school.However he never went for other people or children.He seems do it only towards us.Thanks.

You have my sympathy it's not an easy one to tackle.
My first never went through this my second however ouch 😫 I can still feel some of the bites.
My escape came when we went to a family event and they bit a cousin the same age. Cousin retaliated by biting back. My child was mortified. When my child told me it hurt I said yes and every time you do it to me it hurts. Nail Hammer Head in that moment. They never bit again. I bought a bigger than normal bday present for the Cousin that year 😅
On another note is there a particular time or reason je does it? My friends child with delayed speech bit out of frustration 🫤
Good luck 💐

He's doing it more towards the evening and when me and my husband are having a conversation.He's also having another sibling in two 2 weeks time.Maybe he needs to be bitten by another child to understand that it actually hurts.

My almost 4yo son does this too. Always has. He bites me, my DH and his sister. He hits us too. No idea what to do really. We’re being firmer with punishments but honestly, he doesn’t care. Put him in his room and he’ll cry for 10 seconds and then start playing with his toys. Tell him he can’t have stories at bedtime, he’ll cry for a minute and then go to sleep.

As the PP said, being hurt back does work. He’s only once bitten at nursery and got bitten back, never did it again. My DD is just too soft to retaliate though so she’s still his victim.

So no advice but solidarity. I now hold the top of his head when he tries to launch an attack so he can’t get close enough to hit or bite me. He gives up quite quickly and then he’s devastated and sobs. It’s like he doesn’t understand where the anger came from in him.

The only thing that might be working, and we’re only two days in so far, is we’re taking him out after dinner for fresh air and to burn off steam. So far he hasn’t had the rage at bedtime since we started doing that. But it could be a coincidence.

I take him out everyday playgroups and days out.Maybe is just a boy thing.

Yes, we’re out a lot too but it’s specifically after dinner that we’re trying, just up and down the road on his bike or tonight we went to the playground. We’d normally just hang about at home after dinner but it’s the evenings that are the worst danger zone for us so trying something new. You never know.

Ive realised that we treat him very much like his older sister who loves crafting, so drawing/colouring/reading in the evenings. But maybe boys need to let off more steam than that? Especially after they’ve refuelled.

What do you plan on doing when he bites the new baby?