Mum guilt

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Thinking of returning to work full time on a compressed hours basis, mainly for financial gain, take a bit of pressure off DP who is not enjoying his job to enable him to looks for something different. I love my job, like the idea of returning, they're understanding and supportive but the thought of sending my little guy to the CM an extra day is making me feel so guilty!
Currently doing 3 days and he LOVES it there, but he'd be going up to 4. I'd still get a 3 day chunk with him, but it's filling me with sadness at the thought that someone else gets him for the majority of the week. Financially, I don't have to go back full time, but selfishly I kind of want to? I want more disposable income and I want to be a full time team member again. It just feels like I'm shipping him off out of choice and that as I do have a choice in this I'm being a terrible mother by even considering choosing to send him.
Any advice? Words of wisdom? Pros and cons of me doing this?
Tia x

“The thought that someone else gets him
for the majority of the week” - he won’t see it that way, at all. If he loves it there he will be happy to go for an extra day. Why is it selfish of you to want to do more of something you enjoy and are good at and that will be helpful for your family? How is spending an extra day a week at home wishing you were working benefitting anyone? Do you think that a woman should only have a role outside of motherhood if that role is financially required? These aren’t meant to be antagonistic questions, just prompts to make you realise that your guilt isn’t rational. Don’t let it rule you!

Stop guilt tripping yourself. Millions of women do it. He'll be fine!