DD keeps wetting again!

[sweetie66]

Hi I am new to you all so hope you can help me. My DD is 3y 10m and since the beginning of Jan suddenly started wetting herself again. It happens when she is at nursery (she goes 3 afternoons). She constantly leaves it to late to actually get to the toilet and wets. She has also started doing it at home, even going into the toilet and then standing there and wetting (even though the seat/stool is ready for her) We have been doing the reward chart for 3 weeks but no change. She is quite capable of going on her own but she just doesn't seem bothered. If you ask her if she wants to go she always says no but then will wet. If we try and take her to the toilet incase she want to go she flips out and starts crying. I don't want to make it more of an issue so end up not pushing it. The doctor has ruled out any medical condition and says just leave it but it is driving us crazy. Please can someone help me????

We went through exact same thing when dd1 was 2 1/2. It lasted approx 6 mths and no matter what i did, nothing made a difference. One day it was her older brothers birthday, i said to her "how about we try and have dry knickers all day for brothers birthday". She asked why and i said it would be just lovely to spend brothers birthday with dry knickers. She never wet all day or any day thereafter
What helped a little bit before that - when she wet herself i changed her without talking or looking at her, just completely blanked her. I think because she got no reaction at all, she was a bit better. But, other than that its just a case of riding it out!
Sorry, i know this doesn't help much!

Blimey 6 months! I think I will have pulled all my hair out by then! We have tried giving her loads of positive praise when she goes on the toilet and I must confess sometimes I do have to react when wets herself but it seems to make no difference. She recently started school nursery and started wetting there. To be fair this was only because she is tiny and couldn't reach the toilet. Once they got a stool she was fine. She has been going to the afternoon nursery for nearly 4 years and so knows the staff really well and is settled there. I did wonder if starting school had affected her but the teacher says she has settled in really well. When she stands in the toilet and just wets herself rather than get on the toilet it drives me mad!! She can clearly do it so I just don't know why she suddenly wont.

mine was just the same. I'd ask her if she needed a wee (i knew she did) but she said no. She'd then just stand there and wee! I tried everything - star charts, naughty stair, chocolate, praise, being nasty , everything. I eventually figured i'd never solve it and resolved just to accept her and to take spare clothes everywhere. It did get easier once i'd made this decision. I made it though because i flipped one day, really screamed at her and was really horrible. I felt so ashamed at myself and decided there and then that i couldn't be like that anymore, for my sake as well as dd's. Your dd will sort herself out, my gp advised its very common and normal! By my experience, just ride the storm, don't talk to her about it anymore, don't shout or react in any way. Just change her, don't remind her to have a wee, don't ask her. See how she goes.