Ahhh kids party anxiety!

[itsapawty]

Is 5 weeks too early to send out invites? I'm so worried people will forget or not come and turn out will be bad but also everything is all booked so I don't want to not send them and someone else get in there first for the same date as it's a weekend party

I'm so worried about no one/barely anyone turning up and it crushing my little one! 😭

No 5 weeks is fine as people make plans especially on a weekend. If it's hosted by a third party venue then they'll need the numbers a week or two before as well.

You could send reminders a day before?

I'm sending the invites in a whole class WhatsApp group so that's a good idea, no one else has ever sent a reminder so I was thinking I couldn't!

What would you say? Is it a bit beggy to remind them? I just have this fear of this big empty hall and a crying 4 year old! This is why I didn't want to plan a 'big party' but he was adamant!

Yeah that's fine. Sent ours 6 weeks in advance on the class WhatsApp as it's a summer party and people seem to have more plans when the weather gets better. Most rsvp that day tbh party is in 3 weeks now and only 3 parents haven't responded at all

Here’s the text from the last reminder we received

Reminder for (child’s name) party, tomorrow at 12-2, name of place. There’s a play and display at the back of X. See you tomorrow xx

Ok I'm glad reminders are a thing that makes me feel better that I can do that. I don't know why I'm so nervous about it! Thanks for reassurance!

Five weeks is about normal, especially for summer when diaries fill up more. Then reminder on, say, the Thurs before "X is really looking forward to seeing you all at her party on Saturday, just a reminder of the details - insert venue and time"

Reminders are fine but lots of kids have paid for activities / siblings with activities that they won't miss and party clashes are a thing.

Be form and ask for an rsvp by x date.

That's totally fine to send now and defo send a reminder. A reminder is usual for my kids classes. You could also use as an opportunity to ask for any dietary requirements.

Ahh I think I'll open it up to siblings too, I wasn't going to as I didn't want too many to turn up but now I'm more scared of not enough! I have a very close to Christmas birthday and vividly remember no one turning up one year - I can't do that to him!!

Hi all, this is just to let the parents of 'xx class' know that <DC Name> is having a birthday party on ..... at ..... and he'd like to invite all of his classmates to celebrate with him. Please let me know if you can make it by xxxx for catering, and let me know of any allergies or dietary requirements. Hope you can make it!

Then a nudge for outstanding RSVPs on the response date and a reminder the week of

It’s quite normal to make a party WhatsApp group where I am from the numbers on the class WhatsApp group especially if you are not inviting everyone. Send the invite and a polite reminder checking allergies. Those not coming will delete themselves.

Thanks - my husband has told me it's far too early and to wait until 2 weeks before but I'm going to ignore him and hope you are all right

5 weeks is perfect. 2 weeks is far too short.

5 weeks is fine!
I done mine 7 weeks early because it fell on a popular bank holiday weekend.
I also sent a reminder a few days before.
Honestly do whatever you want, i really dont think other people care, we end up working ourselves up over nothing x

We have a party coming up for my 4yr old. I was also nervous about no-one replying... hoping 10 might say yes. 28 currently confirmed! I'm now wanting people to say no as it's become a huge party. Good luck

Your husband is wrong!

people book up their weekends a week in afar me and no, OP, I don't think it's Begay to remind people

I ask for RSVPs though and then as a PP says just say "DC is looking to seeing Sam, Ben, Tom tomorrow" and tag the parents who had said they were coming if it's a whatsapp group