asking for advice for a friend ... anyone got 3 or more children in one bedroom?

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my friend desperately wants another baby .... her dh does too but is saying no cos they only have a 2 bedroomed house. she thinks it is doable but wants to know if anyone's done it.

when dss stays he goes in with my ds.

it is a nightmare.

my 2 ds, i mean!

It really depends on the age/sex of the other children. There are guidelines as to what consitutes 'over crowding'-these are used by social housing providers, but should give some guidance to your friend!

A good friend has 2 DDs (aged 4 yrs and 2 yrs) in a bunk bed in one quite small room. She has just had a 3rd DD who is in with her and her husband at the moment, but will eventually go into a single bed in the room with the other girls. She isn't finding the lack of bedroom space the hardest thing - it's the lack of living space in the rest of the flat that is getting to her. She said if she had a bigger kitchen and front room, and some outside space, the kids wouldn't get under her feet so much and would have more space to play. They spend very little time in their bedroom during the day, so the living areas are what really count. Perhaps your friend could have a think about that, and whether it relates to her? I think it must get harder as they get older, though. My friend is on a transfer list with the council for a 3 bedroom garden flat.

my sister has 3 kids in 1 room - bunk beds for her 2 boys(3 and 4 1/2) and a high sleeper for her dd (8). She had the 3 of them in together from when her youngest ds was around 1 year and at that point she had a cot and the bunk beds as the high sleeper came later after her ds was out of his cot. She also has a 2 bedroom house.

I agree with MrsMattie - it won't be the sleeping space that will be an issue, it will be the living space.

Is her DH amenable to moving in the longer term? 3 very small children is one thing, but as they get older and want their own space (especially if different gender) it could be a nightmare!

I would agree that the age difference is crucial, my sister is several years younger than me and we shared a bedroom. I absolutely hated sharing with someone younger than me - it caused no end of arguments in our house .

ive got 10 yr old ds1, 9 yrold dd and 2 yr old ds2 in same room. All in seperate beds, no bunkbeds cos 2 yr old is a climber Bedroom is about 16'x10'. Im splitting room into 2 in summer so that boys can be in one room and girl in other. Its not a problem except for all the bickering and the mess. One of my friends has 6 dcs between 1 and 9, herself and dh in a 3 bed house - now thats crowded, you cant move in her house.
3 children in one room is deff doable.

she has a girl 7, a boy 4 and a boy 2 who is still in her room atm.

kellykate - how many dc does she have in each room then.

the age difference is important though.

3 oldest in one room, bunkbeds and single bed. next 2 oldest in single room with bunkbeds and youngest in parents room in a cot.