Teaching DD about privacy

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DD 6 has got into the habit of sitting legs akimbo in public- at school/ childminder etc around other people. She sometimes forgets herself and fiddles with her bum. She also forgets to shut the toilet door sometimes and we’re trying to teach her about privacy, about proper and polite behaviour. We’re body positive and we’re not shaming her but we’re struggling to communicate how important it is not to flash your bum to older boys from the junior school etc. are there any good story books anyone can recommend on this topic? She seems to really take heed to fairy tales and picture books with a message. We want to make her feel body confident and aware of her personal space without leaving her unprepared for negative attention.
hope this makes sense!
thanks in advance

Haven't though of any age appropriate books on this I'm afraid.

With my DD (also 6) we talk about whether it's polite to do xyz in public. E.g. if she's hot it's ok to wander round in knickers in front of family, but with friends it's not polite to show knickers, so she should sit so they can't be seen etc. Bottom can be touched in the bath when hands/bottom are both clean but otherwise shouldn't be touched for both politeness and hygiene reasons.

It's not a big problem if a child that age forgets to shut the door sometimes when they are on the loo. Just gently remind.

Perhaps Pantasaurus? Not a book but it teaches keeping privatesprivate in a kid friendly way.

Some of this doesn't need to be 'a talk' so much as an instant gentle reminder. So if she's sitting with her bum on show just say 'skirt down, we don't all need to see your butt' or something else light. It doesn't need to be said in hushed tones or anything just a normal chatty manner.

You just need to tell her, each and every time, and remind her when she is going in to school. You don’t need any stupid stories or cautionary tales. Just use your actual parenting voice and your words.

I'd buy her shorts for under her skirt for now.

When my elder DD was in Reception they were taught to "sit like a Princess". (I.e pull the skirts down to their knees when on the carpet) It sounded extremely unfeminist and trite but on reflection it was just using something the girls would understand.

I feel sorry for girls who have parents who dress them in skirts then blame them for the inevitable issues.

Dress her in shorts and leave her alone.

FFS this is depressing.

@wildfirewonder my DD rarely wears a skirt at home (she chooses what she wears and prefers leggings mostly), but she has to wear school uniform! It's a cotton skirt above the knee in summer so it rides up very easily. Shorts are not an option.

How did she get to 6 without it simply becoming habit that she sits properly? You don't need a book or a talk you just need to be teaching as you go.