So my child is 6 and is generally an absolute delight to be around. She is kind, polite, helpful, well mannered etc. She does well at school, has plenty of friends etc. But there is one area which we just cannot seem to deal with - her inability to lose/not be chosen for things. So for example, at rainbows they were playing wink murder and she didn't get chosen to be the murderer. So she pouts then bursts into tears. At school sports days if she loses a race, she cries. If we play a board game and she loses, its the same. It is unrelenting. She just cannot accept that things aren't always "fair" or she can't always be chosen or she can't always win. It is exhausting and you start to dread playing game with her, or taking her places as it is embarrassing that all the other kids seem to just accept they haven't been chosen where mine will have a full emotional meltdown about it. We have tried talking to her calmly, explaining rationally, we play and don't "let" her win etc. We have tried taking her home from places when she has a meltdown etc but nothing changes it. She has always been like this and I kept hoping she would grow out of it but she doesn't seem to be.
Please - any words of advice?! Any tips on other things we can do?
She is otherwise an utter delight and I really want to help her navigate this before it becomes any worse and starts to alienate people from wanting to play with her etc.