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Sons father keeping sons belongings

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ConfusedMama28 · 04/06/2023 19:05

So my sons father bought our son (7) an Xbox for Christmas over a year ago.

My son has asked on multiple occasions to have this Xbox at home. He sees his dad currently one night a month, sometimes less.

It seems to me a waste of money to have something like that which belongs to my son left there where he can't see it for most of the year.

We have asked to bring this home where he can use and enjoy it as when he does visit his dad their busy anyway doing other activities (which is great!) and he doesn't usually get the chance to use it anyway.

My sons father is out right refusing saying it's for his house only despite him not really having to time to play it there anyway.

I have tired explaining he can bring it over for his visits but I'm still getting a "no means no" response.

My son is very upset about this as he has a lot of friends he plays with on Xbox and in my opinion it is HIS.

My sons dad doesn't do much for our son, Owes over a grand in maintenance and isn't currently paying maintenance despite the fact he's working.

I feel as though he's keeping this from our son to get at me and for his own personal use and it was never a gift intended for our son in the first please and was a cop out one Christmas to let him open it so he didn't have to buy him any gifts he can actually keep.

Any advice?

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PaigeMatthews · 04/06/2023 19:09

The xbox isnt your sons. His tight arse wanker of a father bought it for himself. He bought your child nothing. This is clearly not your childs xbox at all.

Since he barely sees him and is a wanker already, id be demanding your sons property back and escalating as by this point i wouldnt be giving a care.

also i assume cms is a direct payment?

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ConfusedMama28 · 04/06/2023 19:24

@PaigeMatthews

He's utterly useless. I knew what the answer would be before asking however I had to try on my sons behalf! So when he grows up I can show him I tried for him.

I'm not sure what else I can do to in regards to "his" Xbox coming home if his father bought as a gift.

The CMS was on direct pay, he kept underpaying or not paying so then went to collect and pay and he failed to do that so now in the process of deducting from his earnings but struggling because he keeps job hopping every time they get close to doing it

Definition of a dead beat...

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RedHelenB · 04/06/2023 19:29

Just say it was bought to stay at Dad's house. And then the choice is to buy him one for your house or not.

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ConfusedMama28 · 04/06/2023 19:35

@RedHelenB

I tell my son this I just don't understand how or why an almost 30 year old man is so selfish over a child's gaming console.

Baffles me that he doesn't want his son to enjoy it 341 days out of the year just so it can be there, simply just existing with no time to use for the 24 days a year he is there 😂 madness

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Isthisexpected · 04/06/2023 19:37

It's just a power trip from a petty man who needs to feel in control.

Stressybetty · 04/06/2023 19:39

Yeah he didn't buy it for his son, he bought him for himself. You can bet he's getting plenty of use out of it when your ds isn't there. Move on, buy another for your house if you can. Don't give your ex the satisfaction of arguing with him.

Starlightstarbright1 · 04/06/2023 19:42

I also would look at buying your Ds one for home . If nothing else it will bother him more his Ds doesn’t need his x box

I agree with others he bought it for himself.

littleripper · 04/06/2023 19:44

😂the tightwad wanted an X Box so gave it to his son. What a knobber. I would stay out of it "mmm ask your Dad" every time. He'll figure it out

Redlarge · 04/06/2023 19:44

Happened to my kids. He bought youngest an x box in covid for his birthday and Christmas and he wasnt allowed to take it home. His dad has wired it up to his bedroom massice tv set up.
It was never for him.
Cunts.

Nell80 · 05/06/2023 09:42

Saying this as a step-parent - don't get into this with him. Act as if the Xbox at his doesn't exist. If you're desperate for your child to have one at your house and you can afford one, get on next Xmas/birthday. If you can't afford it, explain to your child it's something you both can work towards together. And then move on. Your ex is playing a game with you because he knows it pisses you off. Your child can't ever know this, as much as you'd like to tell them - that's their dad and it's your role to protect that relationship (even if he's an utter arsehole). Don't waste your energy on it, it's really not worth it.

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