Really bloody struggling with my 11 month old

[Liverpoolgirl50]

Just that really :(

I guess she is your ‘typical’ 11 month old - into everything, learning to pull up and stand, wants to walk but can’t, wants to be held but also put down but then held again, throws a paddy when she’s restrained in any way - car seat, high chair, pushchair. She’s never been a particularly ‘happy’ baby, but at the moment she is especially pissed off at the world.

I could manage this until about 6 weeks ago when her sleep went out the window, she wakes frequently in the night and then is up for the day anywhere between 4am-5am. Have tried every trick in the book to get her back down and nothing works. We’ve got a sleep consultant booked in for next week so I’m trying to stay positive about that..though my husband and I both work full time to it’s starting to take its toll.

Honestly just finding it all really bloody hard. I cry every day and I know I shouldn’t say it but I find myself regretting the decision to have her. I was diagnosed with PND at 3 months and am on anti depressants, so am getting help. I was in the library today trying to get her out the house and bumped into a mum who said ‘oh that’s the best age!’ And I looked at her bewildered and said ‘it doesn’t get better than this?’ And she said ‘oh no it only gets harder’ and I think it’s just made me feel so sad.

Does it get easier.. at all?

Christ, I wouldn't say that's the best age! Each age has its challenges tbf, but once they can talk, I found things a lot easier (if you ignore the ability to then argue with you over every.little.thing...).

I found the hardest age 10/11 months. 100%. They want to do everything but don't realise they can't do anything. I found when my daughter started walking it got SO much easier. She's 18 months now and this is my fave age, yes there's temper tantrums but the toys are so much more fun, they're much more fun, they can understand so much more it's just brilliant. You're at a really really tough age itl get better! And it will feel so much better when they're sleeping again x

My DS is 11 months (1 in a few weeks) and its tough. They are mobile and in to everything and the mini "tantrums" have started to emerge. Earlier he had an absolute breakdown because I wouldn't let him eat a nappy bag. Absolutely distraught and heartbroken over it! He is occasionally up for the day at 5am too.

Its draining. Especially ad same as you both we are working full time.

ignore the mum who said its the best age. Every age is a different challenge and every baby is different.
The early mornings are shit but try your best to ride it out. Is the room dark enough?
Try to laugh/find the funny side through the tough moments.

More solidarity than advice im afraid. I know how you feel. It's shit. It's fucking hard. Just remember tomorrow might be a better day ❤️

Thanks so much everyone. That was exactly what I needed to hear tonight ❤️

It's fucking hard. You're doing a great job 💜

I have a 5 year old and an 11 month old. It 100 percent gets better. I found this age one of the hardest, they are unstable, always on the edge of falling over and hurting themselves, emotional and can’t communicate what they want. Once they can be reasoned with, everything gets better, including sleep because you can bribe them to stay in bed.

It’s not the best age. It’s a really shit age in my opinion! I have a 13 month old who sounds in a similar stage to yours. Mad as hell about everything and it’s hard. She’s never been an easy baby but in the last couple of months the moaning and non stop crying / shouting is ridiculous.

I also have a 4 year old and a 6 year old and I remember finding this stage particularly trying with both of them. They’re great now. It absolutely does get better.