Anyone else feel pushed out being the only woman in the house?

[CJM88]

I’m a mum of a boy already and 36 weeks pregnant with a second boy. Definitely don’t want anymore after this one and can’t help but feel sad that I’ll never have a girl.
I just feel like I’m the cleaner, cook and caretaker of the house and no one’s even bothered if I’m around. My husband gets to be the funny playful one all the time whilst I’m doing all the jobs trying to keep on top of everything so I’m the boring one! Not sure if I’m just be hormonal but this is how I’m feeling at the minute 😔. Just feel like I want my life back and I may as well not be around.

This has got fuck-all to do with the genitals of your kids and everything to do with your 'D'H not pulling his weight.

I have 2 DS and DH and I are genuinely completely equal parents.

Mum of two boys here...
Not the case in this house, we have spent this week out and about, yesterday in a forest building dens, crossing rivers and hunting for the Gruffalo.
Myself and DH both have good relationships with the boys and to be honest if you were to ask I spend more time doing the 'fun' stuff.
Tell DH to pull his weight and shape up.
I do the majority due to DH working away but when home even he does a bit of washing, driving kids around, cooks etc

So don't be a martyr and someone who defaults to the stereotype that only women do housework! You have a choice here, and a great opportunity to bring up your sons to be fully functioning adults. It's up to you!

Your DH needs to start being a better role model and showing his son that cleaning up isn’t just mums job. Get him to sort the dishes, help wipe tables. He really needs to step up and be more supportive.
Start training your little one to tidy up after himself and encourage the idea that he doesn’t get anything else out until the previous activity/toy is tidy. Find a tidy up song and play it, sing along and repeat this so it becomes the norm. Not sure how old your eldest is but it’s good to get them to help around the house. It’s just needs a lot of repetition but so worth it when they just get on with it!

Do you want your sons to grow up thinking it's the woman's job to do all the shit stuff while they can do what they like? If you did have a daughter, is this what you would teach her - that woman stay home and clean and tidy while men get to do have fun?

Of course not. Your DH needs to pull his weight. You and he are setting the pattern to some extent for your DC's future relationships, and surely you both want those to be equal and respectful?

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