Bossy and overpowering family?

[lockdownmummax]

Looking for some advice,

So terrible incident in march which resulted in my then partner badly injuring my son, he has been charged, social work involved requiring me to be under 24/7 supervision with my kids so kids have ti live at ny mums until my parenting capacity assessment is finished, I had some sort of breakdown and unfortunately my Dr thinks I have PTSD but feeling much better I have had help with medication and some counselling, but still not back to myself completely,

I live around 25 minutes from my hometown where my family live, I did live with my then partner in this house however he does not live here anymore, I love my house my kids have a large bedroom, i have spent a good bit of money decorating the house, I have a lovely back and front garden and it's very close to my kids nursery, my work, shops, parks, train station ect, It is the first house I have had that I have felt settled in, my family are set on me going down the homeless route and living in temporary accommodation for a council
House close to my family, I don't really want to do this tbh but it is a on going issue that gets brought up constantly,
The social work have no issue where I live, they have been out to my home and said it's lovely and admired all my children's toys ect, my then partner has bail conditions not to enter my street and the social work will provide me with a ring door bell too ( for the record I do not think he would show
Up to the house to do anything)
so once I am aloud kids home I would like to move back into our home, the social work seem okay with it when the time comes however my family don't and I am finding it very overpowering? it's 25 minutes over the motor way to 90% of my family, any advice on how to handle this it's starting to get me down a bit with the constant pressure,
I also finish university as a qualified nurse soon and would like to buy my own home within the next few years so was happy holding out here until I am in the position to do this , thoughts? Opinions

also good to mention my family are worried they can't help me as much because I'm not as close but before this happened I would take the kids down to visit my family every week sometimes twice a week, I'm happy to drop kids off pick them up ect its not an issue for me, and I would wait until I am feeling fully back to myself before returning home with my kids

Are you currently privately renting?

I think your family maybe giving you outdated advice/tips. Gone are the days when you’d turn up to the council saying you’re about to be made homeless and then you’d be found a council house in your local area.

more likely to be placed in a hotel for months and then given a house anywhere in the county.

however it does sound like you could do with their support? Will you need childcare by then when they move home?

I imagine they’re extremely worried following what happened and wanting to have you and you child close to them to help keep everyone safe.

It must have been traumatising for everyone involved.

Did the incident happen inthe home? Might that be why they don’t think you should stay there?

Is the house in only your name now and not ex’s name? Just thinking of what issues your family might have.

@NameChangeSake797
I know a hotel or either temporary accommodation and then placed anywhere including in a flat which I would struggle to manage with 2 young kids with all the stairs and humfing the buggies up and down them, it just doesn't make sense when I have a lovely suitable home at the moment,

I don't return to uni until January now I got extended leave due to what happened, by that time my oldest will be in nursery and have the 30 free hours given by the council and then my uni funds nursery for my youngest who will be 1 by the time I start back, I am only on campus 1 lecture a week and the rest are from home so
It's easily manageable, placement is a bit different but nursery mostly covers my placement hours and family help, but before this happened when my family
Where helping with childcare I would drop my oldest off so it was never really an issue before

@Weallgottachangesometime
yes it was very traumatising for everyone Involved, like a horrible nightmare we can't seem to wake up from,

It happened in the home...

no The house is only in my name now

@NameChangeSake797
Not private renting it's a council house from a housing association, it's a new build with front and back garden I was very very lucky to get this house

I can see why you wouldn’t want to loose a good home. I can also understand your families perspective though. Given they are caring for your child they probably feel they have more responsibility than they maybe did before. Has your child been home since the incident? Maybe they’re worried they’ll be scared going back?

Ultimately once returned to your care it is up to your where you and your child live. Given what has happened I can’t blame them for wanting you closer.