Doing ..it.. after pregnancy

[Maloneyb]

I had a pretty rough birth experience so having sex after took a while
we tried, once, I couldn’t bear the pain! However.. ready to try again.
but my question is, where/how/when are people doing it?!
my baby is with us 99% of the time!
how do people get pregnant so quickly after birth! 😅

It was difficult, I agree. We mostly managed to try when baby first went to sleep. But the leaky boobs and baby in the room were somewhat off putting. It was nice to get back a level of connection, but not really enjoyable sex for a good while post-partum.

We have an 11 month old and have had sex three times since we had her. Once in a hormone fuelled daze 5 weeks PP, once at Christmas when we had a night off, and once early this year when she must have been going through a good patch of sleep 😂

Honestly we figured the sex will come back eventually. Far too bloody knackered at the moment!

It took us 3 months after my terrible tear. It's ridiculously hard to find the time isn't it!

DS goes in his own room soon, might help us get things back on track (which I highly doubt as I already feel it's not going to go well 🤣)

I had a c section and the first couple of times from around 8 weeks was unbelievably painful.

Once things went back to normal, we would do it with baby in the room, which was awkward and difficult to relax. As he got older, we put the seats from the sofa onto the floor (covered with a blanket). If you don’t have the space, you need to get creative with the where. The when is usually nap time or night time!

We didn't do it until i was done breastfeeding, so 6 months at the earliest, and that coincided with baby going in their own room as well. I wouldn'g be able to have sex with baby in the room

We had sex in the living room or anywhere baby wasn't for the first while. It was incredibly painful. Took me 26 wks to properly heal from a tear and an episiotomy.

Went to gp she gave me an estrogen based cream to help and it did a bit. And lube is your friend! Sex was painful for around 2 years afterwards on and off. Position depending etc. I felt terrible that I couldn't have full sex or would have to stop so would help H out as and when. It did get better but it was long.

I had a 3a tear but it healed well and I was ok by 8 weeks.

Definitely use lube - I had never used it before giving birth and now it's my best friend.

If you do want to have regular sex, then best to get over having baby in the same room - build a pillow wall if you don't want to see them. Obviously when they get a bit older this goes out the window unless they're asleep.

Do it at anytime of day and in any room - during a Saturday afternoon nap is prime time.

Shower with DP in the evening sometimes, or even just lay naked together with no expectations- just for intimacy building which definitely helps.

Take advantage of the time you can still put your baby down and they can't go anywhere!! Because as soon as they are toddling, and down to one nap, that's when it gets really hard to find the time!

Do it while the baby is sleeping. Ours was in the next to me cot- her being in the room was never the problem for me. They are so tiny and have no idea what's going on around them. At the time we were quiet and slow anyways- due to my tears, we couldn't be too adventurous in bed.
After 6 months she moved into her own room, by the time I also healed complitely.

Use a lot of lube and try different positions.

Thanks all
i just don’t know how I feel about baby being in the room 🤣
we have other bedrooms tbf but by the time baby is asleep we’re both exhausted and just want to do nothing 🤣

maybe I just need to not worry about it and it’ll happen naturally when it’s meant to

dreading the pain if there is any.. we have lube. Just in case 🙃