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Original poster

So why DON'T people put their children in the same bedroom?

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MrsTittleMouse · 20/02/2008 15:46

I'm not cheeky enough to ask people in RL, but I'm really curious as no-one we know has put their DC in the same bedroom and we'd like to do just that when this DB is born. Is there some horrible disadvantage that I'm missing?

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welshmum · 20/02/2008 15:47

I didn't do it as I didn't want them waking each other up, however I might consider it now they're sleeping so well and so fond of each other

bohemianbint · 20/02/2008 15:48

Due to size of house we'll definitely be doing this - but not until they sleep well through.

nailpolish · 20/02/2008 15:49

mine creep into each others beds and cuddle in. they dont ever wake each other up. i keep telling them i am going ot buy them a double bed to share and they cheer!

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 20/02/2008 15:50

We tried it for a while and it really didn't work - we found instead of letting ds self-settle we were rushing in when he woke up in the night. The whole family slept a lot worse because of it.

But I have friends who report that both children slept better together than apart.

aGalChangedHerName · 20/02/2008 15:51

My ds's have the bigger bedrooms so the dd's will share. Well that'll happen when dd2 ever sleeps through the night lol

WallOfSilence · 20/02/2008 15:51

Left to their own devices for any more than ten minutes, my kids tend to gravitate towards slaughtering each other. Therefore leaving them alone in the same bedroom all night would be a very bad idea.

Mine are 3 & 6 though.

jumpingbeans · 20/02/2008 15:52

I know it's not the same, but we have a king size spare bed, and have up to four dgc all snuggled in together, sisters,brothers cousins,boys and girls, they all love it (I love sneaking in for a look too)ahh bless em

PetitFilou1 · 20/02/2008 15:53

They won't go to sleep and they get up too bloody early as they wake each other up - that's why!

PortAndLemon · 20/02/2008 15:53

We're planning to after the first six months, probably, depending on how DD sleeps and on how DS and DD are getting on.

BeauLocks · 20/02/2008 15:54

We haven't yet (they are both toddlers and we have lots of space) but if they wanted to share when they are older then I'd be happy for them to do so. As long as it's not an excuse to keep each other awake all night....

TripleyTigger · 20/02/2008 15:54

I took my girls bunk beds apart and pushed them together, as I was fed up with them climbing into each others bed. They love sleeping together and don't wake each other. At the weekends their brother joins them (I have triplets)

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colditz · 20/02/2008 15:55

They wake each other up all the time, toddler wakes schoolboy when schoolboy needs sleep, schoolboy wakes toddler when schoolboy is bored, they hop in and out of each other's beds - nightmare.

yama · 20/02/2008 15:56

I was always jealous of my brothers sharing a room when we were growing up. If we have another child they will share.

CatIsSleepy · 20/02/2008 15:56

my sister's 3 shared a room for several years

WallOfSilence · 20/02/2008 15:57

I shared with my 4 sisters.

My 3 brother shared a room too.

I hated it.

I shared a single bunk bed with one sister. The other 2 shared another bunk bed & the 5th sister slept on a sofa thingy... it was mad & cramped & why the fuck did they have 8 kids when they clearly had no room for them?

dilbertina · 20/02/2008 15:58

I have dd 4yo and ds 18m together and it works fine. They have an incredible ability to sleep through each others shenanighans. DD has night terrors occasionally but ds never wakes up.....ds wakes ridiculously early on occasion but dd rarely wakes up til reasonable time.

I like them sharing a room, I love hearing them chat away to each other before going to sleep or before we go in in morning. I treat bedroom as place for sleeping only - very few toys - just soft toys etc and they only really play downstairs. Daytime naps tend to not work with both as they will just keep each other awake but dd rarely needs daytime nap now and if she does I just snuggle her up on sofa.

I'm hoping sharing a room will help avoid too much sibling rivalry and help promote a good relationship between them - is working so far......

tassisssss · 20/02/2008 15:58

I worry that my nearly 5 year old will wake up his wee sister in the mornings (and I do enjoy her long lies!)

I also worry that wee sister will keep big brother awake at nights

However, we're going to give it a go and put them together in the next month or so and free up a bedroom for baby.

LadyOfWaffle · 20/02/2008 15:58

DS and new baby (when new baby is out of our bed and not breastfed) will have to share - but it's the smallest room in the history of small rooms. My sister and I shared though until I was about 12/13 (she 14/15) even though we had 4 bedrooms.

dilbertina · 20/02/2008 16:00

I would add though, I am planning to put them in seperate rooms in a year or two. I think once they hit 5 or 6 they will probably appreciate own space a bit more - if they still want to share I would continue though....

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MrsTittleMouse · 20/02/2008 16:01

Wow! Some very interesting stories here. I am now hoping beyond hope that our two will want to sleep in the same bed and snuggle up, and not end up half-killing ecah other!

We will have enough bedrooms for one each, but I remember sharing with my brother when we were small and really enjoying it. Obviously when they get older then they'll need the privacy and will each have their own room.

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ComeOVeneer · 20/02/2008 16:02

There is a 3 year age gap between my two and different sexes, plus we have4 bedrooms, and a double sofa bed in the playroom so there is no need. They occasionally have sleep overs in dd's room (she has one of those single beds where there is a second one underneath), but it is a nightmare tbh.

MirandaG · 20/02/2008 16:05

I shared with my brother until we moved to a bigger house when I was eight and got my on room. I didn't sleep properly for years because I hated being on my own. We are putting our DD2 (almost 6 months) in the same room as DD1 (4y) in the early part of the evening in preparation for them sharing the room properly as soon as DD2 is six months old. DD2 wakes occasionally but DD1 seems to just sleep through the yelling! When they're older and we have a bigger house (hopefully) would let them have their own room if they want, but I think the company is nice and I have heard others say that they sleep better with company. I think the sound of someone else's breathing is reassuring.

smugmumofboys · 20/02/2008 16:05

We always planned for DS2 to share with DS1 but it soon became apparent that it was a no-goer. DS1 would not leave DS2 alone - hitting, scratching him etc - so we didn't dare leave them in a room together. They possibly could share now (5 and 3) but as we have the space there's no real need.

PestoMonster · 20/02/2008 16:06

My dds (10 & 8) are in a room together and it works fine. DD2 joined DD1 in their room when she moved out of her cot at about 2 years old or so and tbh we've never looked back. They have bunks with separate reading lights, so they both have a bit of their own space and can choose to read without much impact on the other one.

They do fight sometimes, but mainly they keep each other company at bedtimes and often will read to each other, or play games like noughts & crosses in the same bed together which I think is quite good.

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