Son asked to go abroad with friends family

[Moonchild18]

So just that really, our 15 year old DS has been asked to go to Spain during term time next month, he really wants to go but we're a bit apprehensive as we don't know this family very well not to mention our son has already had some time off this year with illnesses and he's been tossing his school work off and he's not been getting the best feedback from teachers with his work and assessments, up until year 10 he was doing well in school. What would you do? On one hand we'd like him to have the experience but on another we're worried that he's very far away should something happen and he's already behind on his school work.

I wouldn't worry about him being far away.

But personally absolutely not in term time y10.

It would be a no from me in term time at that stage. Are you likely to get fined?

Term time, y10 with a family you don’t know?
Nope

I have a DD in year 10, I would say no to a term time holiday especially if he's behind in his school work.

I would be saying no because it is in term time. He is behind in his work and getting poor feedback from his teachers.

It would be a no from us too. At that age I’d be ok with in in the holidays, not term time. And definitely not if schoolwork hasn’t been as good as it could be.

Not in term time, it's a convenient excuse as I'd be wary as you don't know the family, but saying not in term time gets you out of saying that

School holidays no problem. Term time in year 10 then I’d say no chance.

He’s been tossing his school work off? 😳

Nope, certainly not considering he's behind at school. I'd make it clear to him that he's behind in school and getting bad reports from teachers so you won't be permitting treats like extra holidays abroad. If he wants to change that so he has the chance to go should other opportunities come up, well I guess he better pull his socks up!

In Y10? Nope. I wouldn’t let him go away in hols fir a week.

Surely that is an easy "no".

Thanks all. This is exactly how I feel too but DH is being a bit more lenient about it. Had it been during the holidays I don't think it would have been as much as a problem but since it's term time and he's already behind on his school work I don't think he should be rewarded with a holiday during term time.

In my opinion, I don't think a holiday in the last couple of weeks of the school year is a big deal - they're unlikely to be doing a huge amount anyway which is probably why holiday is booked for then. The issue is he's behind and getting bad reports. If it was a good student that would be relied upon to catch anything up and had put a lot of effort in all year, I'd be all for this as a treat.

Personally, I'd be telling him it's a no due to his behaviour in regards to school that he isn't allowed to go, because it is a direct consequence of that. He hasn't done anything to warrant the reward.

Absolutely not, rewarding poor behaviour and effort at school work with a holiday in term time.... it doesn't even warrant thinking about imo.

1. term-time
2. being honest, I don't automatically trust other parents as some are fuckeits, so if I didn't know them I would not be willing to say yes

In term time - of course not! Both these boys should be in school.

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I wouldn't mind the family taking him away to a safe country like Spain but not in term time if he is already behind in his work.