How can I deal with this?

[Thatsnotmyname1985]

Ex DP has moved in with his new partner , 3 weeks after getting In a relationshop , we have 3 DC and for context she has 4 (youngest is 4 months, eldest is 9 according to my DC)

This weekend was his weekend and all 3 of our DC (age 3, 6 and 7) were made to share a single bed with one of her DC

I am just at a complete loss as to how I approach this - do I say nothing and see what the sleeping arrangements are in two weeks or should I say something to my exdp (who will probably throw his toys out of the pram )

@Thatsnotmyname1985 I wouldn't be happy about it either but I've not been in this situation. If you ask @MNHQ to move your post over to the Relationships Section there are some very wise and experienced MNers in there who can help you to navigate this "new development" with your selfish and possibly bonkers exP.

Thankyou!

My first school is, is the new girl friends baby his? I would tell him he can’t have the children over night until he has suitable sleeping arrangements. I would consider camp bed as suitable.

And are all the DC sharing the bed the same sex?

4 children in a single bed? Hell no.

Just don't send them for overnights.

I would second no overnights.
My step-daughter and DD did too and tail for a while at these ages but that’s a short term solution and two in a bed is very different to 4

I agree, no overnight stays until suitable sleeping arrangements have been made. Did any of them actually manage to sleep with 4 in a single bed??? I can't imagine that the kids want to go back, do they?

No the baby is not his
it was 3 boys and 1 girl in the single bed

Definitely talk to him about it. He should make sure their needs are met which absolutely includes better sleeping conditions than that. It will be worth him throwing his toys out of the pram. He should be worried about you throwing the toys out of the pram for not providing for them properly.

Hopefully he has a plan and it was only a temporary thing.

Absolutely no way would he be getting overnight until it's sorted. How would you even fit 4 in a single bed. How do the kids seem about it all?

Forgot to ask, is there a Child Arrangements Order in place?

No child arrangements order in place - he has said this is not where he lives he just stays there 🤦‍♀️

Our DC said it was a bit strange !

He did ask me last week if he was OK to take them there, I explained I wasn't happy and didn't think it was appropriate but ultimately I have no control over what he does on his time and clearly he's not listened to me 🤦‍♀️