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If you live far from ex; do they do all journeys for handover?

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custardcud · 27/05/2023 18:33

Curious if your ex lives over 200 miles away from you, if they come and pick your dc up and drop back or do you meet half way?

Is this an arrangement you made yourself or is it a court order?

Thank you.

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Temporaryname158 · 27/05/2023 18:48

I believe the person who moves ‘away’ fro the location you lived in together is the person who is responsible for travel

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custardcud · 27/05/2023 18:55

Temporaryname158 · 27/05/2023 18:48

I believe the person who moves ‘away’ fro the location you lived in together is the person who is responsible for travel

What if we lived elsewhere when I conceived then moved to have baby in my hometown? He moved with me but relationship has broken down and he's gone back to his parents 220 mile away!

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Temporaryname158 · 27/05/2023 19:14

In which case he has moved. You could have conceived on honeymoon in Australia! That doesn’t count. You both moved together to town x and he has now moved to town B.

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LeftyLou · 27/05/2023 19:16

Temporaryname158 · 27/05/2023 18:48

I believe the person who moves ‘away’ fro the location you lived in together is the person who is responsible for travel

100% agree with this!

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custardcud · 27/05/2023 19:22

We met and lived in a different town for a while before I fell pregnant. I then wanted to move to be near my mum and he came with, but a year in and he's moved back to his parents as things didn't work out.

He is saying that I need to meet him half way because the travel is too far/unsafe to do in a day. I don't know what my rights are.

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Sidge · 27/05/2023 19:43

Ex and I meet halfway. 50 minute journey each, each way. Have done for nearly 8 years. I moved away, but he only has them 1-2 weekends a month so agreed to meet.

openstop · 27/05/2023 19:46

custardcud · 27/05/2023 19:22

We met and lived in a different town for a while before I fell pregnant. I then wanted to move to be near my mum and he came with, but a year in and he's moved back to his parents as things didn't work out.

He is saying that I need to meet him half way because the travel is too far/unsafe to do in a day. I don't know what my rights are.

If he thinks the travel is too unsafe to do in one day then tbh I think you should consider at least travelling part the distance for your child's sake.

Princessabooboo · 27/05/2023 19:51

We meet half way. Approx 90 mins drive each child goes once a month. Sometimes we'll meet for a halfway day trip instead.

I left and moved but the reason I did that was to be near my family for support and away from his drug use and cheating. I don't think the one who leaves should always be the one who should do all the travel. Sometimes your hand is forced to leave the relationship and then I think you have to do the best for you and yr child. For me that was being near my support network.

For a while he travelled to see her and I gave him use of my house and just stayed at my parents. Now she's older we've settled on the halfway plan. It's working well so far.

Throwawayme · 27/05/2023 19:56

I think only fair to meet halfway. Either that or he collects then you pick them back up but that's a long drive I guess

flowerzchox · 27/05/2023 20:18

Meet halfway only fair

Thistlelass · 27/05/2023 21:13

I think the father is being quite reasonable tbh.

Ponderingwindow · 27/05/2023 21:17

He moved away from his child. Travel should be his responsibility.

openstop · 27/05/2023 21:20

Ponderingwindow · 27/05/2023 21:17

He moved away from his child. Travel should be his responsibility.

He's saying it's too far to do safely though. So it would be good if OP could help so her child remains safe and is still able to see their father

FlowerTink · 27/05/2023 22:43

220 miles there which would be 440mile round trip for him? I'd meet half way, it's a long journey especially if he's concerned about safely travelling.

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