Kids dad secretly working, no CM and moving kids

[lola123345]

So my kids dad is secretly working - despite claiming in divorce that he is unable to work for health reasons and paying zero child maintenance.

I've discovered he is working as a manager and have updated CM so waiting for that to get sorted.

Kids now telling me about a new apartment at his job (it comes with accommodation) yet I've heard nothing about this or any plans to move. He currently stays with the kids at his family's house.

I should know where my kids are! Plus it's an hours drive from their school.

Any advice? So tired of having to play private investigator to know whether he's working and where he plans to have kids.

Help!

This happened to me, and I had to stop access as I had no idea where my children were. My story included abuse and threats to not return children though. He never paid unless he had a DEO on his wages, and then he'd change jobs. I feel for you OP but if you are worried in the least about their safety, think about access, etc, carefully.

Thank you - we have a court order in place re access and he has a no drinking undertaking too. I also dealt with a lot of emotional abuse and bad behaviour but was directed at me not the kids. He isn't a bad dad, just not hugely responsible and certainly not stable - this is his sixth job in two years and he can't seem to stay at one or provide a roof over his own head for more than six months.

I can't afford to go back to court though - it ruined me financially. I just want communication! Not happy at idea of kids being an hour away though and living in staff accommodation :(

I assume you're in the UK. If so, because of his behaviour, you should get Legal Aid. All that you said mirrors my experience, but I eventually ignored the court order as my kids' safety came first.