Teen wants to move schools

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Dilemma my child has fallen out with their best friend who has excluded them from their core group as well as spreading rumours.

My child is very sociable and is struggling because of the exclusion.

It’s a struggle to get them to school this has been going on for a month.

They are now pushing to move schools I’ve said to wait the school term out as things could change.

I have reached out to the school and they are going to get both children in a room and try and talk it out but they can’t make other kids be friends again?!

what do I do as changing schools means moving my other child (who has indicated they wish to be at same school as sibling).

has anyone been through this or has any words of wisdom.

What year are they in? Have they already started GCSEs?

It’s miserable for your teen in this situation. Any other friends they can tag along with? How is social life outside school? how easy would it be to change school at this point in time?

Point out to school head of year that spreading rumours and encouraging a group to exclude someone is bullying - a repeated attack on a victim. Friendship group bullyng is the worst as the kids have no shelter from it. Your dc could be totally isolated and miserable all day every day, it is so damaging. Remember Kids don’t ask to change school for no reason. Does the school have a no tolerance policy for bullying? If not then yes, move to a school that takes bullying seriously.

@Partytastic they are a few years away from that @Alongtimelonely the school has actually been really good and are taking steps I’ve been trying to convince my child to let’s see what school does first before we take next steps. It’s just incredibly difficult as zero motivation for wanting to go to school. Luckily they do have friends outside of school but completely isolated at the moment at school especially during breaks and they are super sociable personality so really feeling the exclusion.

Honestly, if they have no friends at all at school and have the ability to make friends (they must do as you say they have friends outside school) I would just move them.

@Partytastic thank you. I’m going to see how the school deal with this and keep a close eye on my child and keep supporting them as best I can. I have started researching other schools as well in the interim.

Just move them. Life is too short.