How old was your baby when you left them for the first time

[wintersun21]

And how long did you leave them with someone else be it nursery, family member or friend etc?

Other than dad- almost 5 months. It’s actually my first time out without him being with dad and I have gone to the exotic place of a n e

My DS was 4 months old when I returned to work. Same age for second & third DC.

This thread is confirming what I already thought regarding Dd and Dgd. Dd is nearly 19, single parent to a four week old baby. They both live with me, so I suppose my role is comparable to that of a partner.
She left baby with me overnight at three weeks old to go to a friend's and get drunk. Previously there had been a lot of going out and coming home late with the baby so I kind of preferred that she left baby with me and accepted she needed to let her hair down after not drinking throughout pregnancy.
But then last weekend she wanted to go out again till the early hours and I said no to having the baby, because I'd just reduced my anti seizure drugs on the advice of my neurosurgeon and that meant that I could have had a seizure so I felt it wasn't safe. She pleaded then screamed that I was an f-ing selfish bitch and left with the baby just before 11pm to leave her at a friend's while she went out.
The last few nights she's reverted to coming home late with the baby - 10.30ish.
Although most of you are probably much older than 18/19 and in stable relationships, this has confirmed what I was thinking - that this is not ok. Baby is already under the radar of children's services. Problem is Dd won't listen to what I say and when I say I promised children's services I'd let them know of any concerns, she retaliated with threats that I won't see her or the baby again.
Sorry to derail the thread, I'm just so worried.

South absolutely right !

Papergirl what a difficult situation for you, I think you have to follow your conscience and let Social Services know your concerns, your duty is to your DGC but I feel for you. I have a relative in a very similar situation who has watched her DD make a car crash of her (& more seriously her DGCs) lives .

8 weeks old, we left her with MIL for an hour while we went for a coffee.

When she was about 12-16 weeks we left her for a couple of hours for a meal.

Later we graduated to longer evenings out, this was easier when breastfeeding was more spaced out so 6-8 months onward.

Never done overnight yet (18mo).

With DP from day 1, for half an hour or an hour at first. With DM for about 6 hours when he was 6 months.