How to get 17mo to stay in his cot ?!

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So I’ll do points to save a huge post:

• Started getting DS in our bed after he started nursery and had the merry go round of bugs and wanted to be close to us. I’d just returned to work so needed any sort of sleep!
• This was at 10/11mo. Now he is 17mo and the best we get is to 2 am and he gets in
• My original plan was to work on this when he was older and could understand being in his own bed is nice etc
• However, I am early pregnant and am starting to worry about when I get bigger as the bed is already quite cramped with him sprawling aha!

so please try to withhold judgment, baby I am carrying now was a lovely surprise to find out about, I would’ve worked on the co sleeping thing a lot earlier if they were planned!

Congratulations!🙂
We did the same from 12 months (when she started nursery) and the let's bring her to bed at 6am started to become earlier and earlier and one night we had to bring her in at 10pm as she refused to stay in her cot (at 15 months)
What worked for us was sleep training. Not the "old fashioned" let the baby cry! We stayed in the room, comforted her and even hold her hand until she felt asleep. It was not easy, but only took a few days and she started to sleep through the nights in her own room. You might have to wake up every few hours and stay up so of you go for it, I would suggest to start when you and your partner off work so can take turns.
You just have to be consistent and when you start there is no more bringing him to bed with you--- that is the hardest part.

No judgement at all here…and this might not be the answer you are hoping for but we are in the same situation with 20month old DS. Usually comes into our bed between 2-5am but it doesn’t bother us at all.

He is in a single bed and not a cot so when he wants to he just walks into our room and comes to one of us to be lifted on to our bed (can get on/off on his own but doesn’t do it when half asleep). He started doing this around 18months, before that we had to go and get him. Much easier now as I don’t get out of bed, and sometimes don’t fully wake up when he comes in.

My top tip is get a bigger bed, when DS was around 13/14 months we switched from a king to super king and it has honestly been life changing. 3 of us in the bed and we rarely touch each other/notice each other turning over.

We are ttc and have no intention of actively changing this sleep scenario. DS can stay in between us and baby in next to me or DH can go in with DS if needed (which is one reason why DS is in a single rather than cotbed).

Essentially, you don’t HAVE to change anything unless it’s really not working for you.

Thank you very much for the nice non judgmental replies! I feel some people are so “well it’s your fault for getting them in the bed” type

I do want to try and get him in his bed as I am nervous he’s so tall and quite active sleepint so I’m scared he’ll kick my bump a lot but if all else fails … a super king sounds divine 😂

thanks for the tips ❤️