Irriating, rude 5 year old since starting school

[myermay]

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If it is silly stuff I just ignore it unless it is upsetting DD. (Sometimes she thinks it is funny and joins is, sometimes it upsets her)

But then I don't think DS has actually called me these names, when he is in a silly mood he just walks around saying poo poo about everything and to everything I say.

I am focusing on not having this sort of conversation at the table.

If DS calls me these things he gets an exceptionally stern telling off (including phrases like "don't you DARE be so rude to me" and such things) AND a punishment that will upset him (timeout/removal of pc time etc)

I will not tollerate such rudeness out of my child TBH and come down HARD!

He sometimes forgets and says something but it is immediately followed by "oh, sorry mummy I was rude" so the message has sunk in... just got to keep on top of it now

There's obviously something going on with the 'poo' thing - DS1 has been poo this, poo that since he started Reception in September. He's also discovered how hilarious belching is (although thankfully has not yet got strong feelings about farting). I don't class this sort of thing as rude so much as immature, and he is immature, on account of being 5, so I don't make any comment usually.

With 'idiot' and 'stupid', I'd probably make a decision based on the tone of voice that was being used - if she's being aggressive or sneery then that's rude and warrants time out or whatever it is you do. If she's just saying 'stupid' but giggling about it, I'd just ignore.

A lot of ignoring goes on here, as you can probably tell...

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dd1 has been obsessed with this talk since starting school too - I have at times laughed, because it was quite funny, have gotten cross if anythng is said in a mean way, but mainly just rolled my eyes and ignored it. She has also picked up 'hate' ie 'o I hate this programme' 'o no I hate walking to school' etc etc. I have said hate its't a very nice word, and again, mostly ignroed it !
Had an awkward incident today when a friend came over with her kids, and her ds aged same as my dd1 was saying all the usual, poo-face etc and they were all giggling away - I suddenly realised that she was sternly telling them all off while I was laughing along. Whoops ! Looked like a bad parent there, didn't I ?!

My DS (10 yrs) is in his final year at primary. He and his friend (same age) were talking the other night about wrestlers they liked and disliked.

I almost wet myself when I overheard my DS say 'Oh I cant stand him he's a real lesbian' his friend agreed and said 'lesbians get on my nerves.'

Myself and his friends mum were eavesdropping and just had faces like this

I told him what a lesbian was coming home from his friends house and then he was and .

Sounds all too familiar.

I asked dd1 what she wanted for tea tonight and she said "poo and wee" .... nice!

I ignore that sort of thing, but if she calls me stupid, horrid, smelly, I put my foot down, and ask her not to speak to me like that. We still do sticker charts, so she has a good sticker taken off if she carries on with her rudeness.

Wino(no offence!) - Is there not a problem then of giving inconsistent signals? Does your idea work, does your DS know not to say it in public or basically does he say it anyway? I'm not a mum yet and I personally wouldn't care about poo (mostly because my partner and I call eachother poo-heads! ) at home but again I wouldn't want to hear it in public, so I'd like to know how to deal with that too.

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I also reckon it's more a phase thing than school necessarily.

I have to admit, I do say "poo" a lot instead of swearing when in front of the kids so I'm certain DD definitely picked it up from me!

Although we had to have a chat about her calling people poo words at school (she was only doing it for fun) as some kids were getting a bit upset!I would put my foot down at idiot/you're stupid etc though.