@CokeZeroPlease if your job is inflexible during term time you need to talk to your husband about stepping up
he needs to be going to the ‘parents come and watch’ things they offer if you can’t.
could he finish early on Fridays and collect them himself when in the U.K.?
when he’s not travelling (and helping to smooth things before he goes / doing more when he gets back).
DH and I both have full on jobs. DH travels and the times when he’s away and it’s all on me - beginning and end of each day whilst working are A LOT.
though I also enough the alone time those evenings.
id suggest a child minder rather than after school club as better more personal support for your younger one. And then your kids can be together.
certainly in our after school clubs it’s arranged by age so older and younger dc are kept apart.
we’ve had a tough time with childcare this year and struggled to find someone kind and reliable after our long term nanny left.
but the changes have brought my two similarly aged kids closer as it’s really shown them they’re together even if the person collecting them
was someone temporary/ that they knew less well.
you should take the job. As a family you can make this work.
but you need to sit your husband down and get him to commit to stepping up. Things will have been easy for him. They can’t stay that easy with you working and still doing everything at home.
look at other stuff too. Eg Get a cleaner if you don’t have one?
order pre made meals from Cook or get your DH to batch cook so that’s covered, especially when he is away.
making it work requires a big rethink of prioritise and who does what for you as a couple.