There is a lot to the story but I would just like to know what would you do or suggest? So my partner has two kids from a previous relationship who his ex doesn’t allow to see due to jealousy and bitterness of moving on but my partners parents adored them kids they were kids from a girl in his culture whereas I’m the same religion but a diff ethnicity and much more western so here we go so we moved from our city to a diff one spontaneously but when I found out I was pregnant we moved back and into house to be closer to family so our baby can have his grandparents etc and his mom wasn’t happy about it as she didn’t want a baby that was not from her culture to be born there so sold the house and made us homeless a month before I gave birth, before selling the house (I had no bump until 7mo) she would ask my partner if his sure that I’m even pregnant and must be faking it. She and my partner have the worst relationship as she let her brothers beat him as a child and just was a horrible mother but because my partner saw her to be a good gran is why he had given her the chance but she did that. She also suggested abortion to me on 2 occasions after the false pregnancy accusations. So we had to move out and a month later I gave birth no one from my partners side not his mom or dad accepted or even asked about our baby as he is only half their ethnicity. My partner asked me to reach out to his dad to come visit as my partner was away and said his dad will support when I did ask his dad his dad wasn’t up for seeing his grandchild. At that point I told my partner fuck these lot my baby doesn’t need them. Now our little one is 10 months and my partner is concerned as he doesn’t speak to his parents but doesn’t want our little one once little one starts asking questions to think it’s ok to be on bad terms with your parents. As we don’t want to lie to our child when he asks about my partners parents. But my partner is afraid it’ll be a thing where it’s normalised so our child can one day feel like it’s ok to not speak to me or will lose the sacredness of what a mother is. And as much my partner hates his mom and doesn’t speak to his dad or his mom his trying to fight for our baby to have his grandad in his life and maybe opening communication with his mom so our baby can have FaceTime relationship with her just so our baby never misses out and doesn’t feel he wasn’t good enough or doesn’t think it’s ok to not speak to parents. What do you all think?
Me and my partner are very much against the idea but we don’t want to burst our babys bubble about how the world is a hateful place or that he wasn’t good enough or for him to grow up thinking if mom is annoying it’s ok for me to not speak to her his trying to protect my relationship with our little boy.
My partner has asked me if there’s any way we can explain to our little boy as to why my partners mom isn’t in his life without showing him people are horrible just so we then don’t have to have any communication for him with her but we can’t get to an answer for that hence why we think we should maybe open communication. Does anyone have any suggestions?