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Nursery - upset

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Wendarl · 15/05/2023 08:54

Would really welcome experience and advice

My 3.5 year old started nursery at 2. He did 2 days and then when he turned 3 (and little sister started nursery) they both went up to 3 days. the plan is for them to go up to 4 days from September when I need to return back to work FT (currently part time). He also started in the pre-school class around the same time. For the first 3 months everything seemed fine, but for the last couple of months he’s been really unhappy before heading in.

He cries and says he doesn’t want to go most mornings and over the weekend started crying saying he didn’t want to go, so quite anxious now I would say.

when the upset started I went in to the nursery to see if there were any issues surfacing there. To be honest, I wasn’t super happy with what I found. Pre-school is much more structured than his previous ‘class’. They make them sit for 45 minutes to do “show and tell” on two mornings he’s in which seems OTT, and generally I’ve just got a sense it’s maybe not a great fit for him? I’m tempted to find an alternative option, but on first look it’s pretty impossible. We can’t accommodate a nanny at home and other nurseries are pretty unknown and not available immediately.

I guess my question is, how would you respond to this situation at home? Have you faced similar and what did you do?

I should say, by time we get out the door he’s generally very happy skipping along the journey and bounds off once he gets there! Nursery staff say he’s generally happy throughout the day

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Hiphopopotamus · 15/05/2023 08:57

It’s so hard when they seem unhappy. What I would say is that the last year of pre school focus’s a lot on school readiness (so the sitting and listening and more structured activities) so this will be helpful maybe to him in the long term. If he’s happy while he’s there I’d be inclined to stick with it for now

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