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Feeling guilty

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Tx1 · 14/05/2023 21:39

Hi everyone, I’m new to this. I have a 4 year old son we have Co slept since he was born and now he’s in his own room. I get him to sleep in his bed and then once he’s asleep I’ll go to my bed he also wakes up about 3/4 times in the night for a drink or a cuddle. ( he will wake up in the night and cry for a drink even though his drink is right next to him, he cry’s for me to go in his room and give him his drink) My partner says I need to stop going bed with him and try make him go sleep on his own and stop getting up in the night to give him his drink that’s right by him (because I am pregnant and soon I’ll be big and getting in his single bed would be a struggle) but I just feel guilty if he gets upset. What is your children’s bedtime routines? Does anyone else think I should be more strict and let him go to sleep on his own? Thank you

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TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 14/05/2023 21:46

My 7 year old twins still creep in to my bed in the middle of the night, to be honest I don't care where they sleep as long as they (and i) get a good night's sleep. My oldest son who's 12 now only stopped co sleeping at about 8 but it changed over night so to speak. It really depends on your ethos but I think the more of an issue you make it, the more of an issue it becomes

Tina8800 · 15/05/2023 10:00

I agree with your husband. Eventually he will need to learn to sleep alone, and your pregnancy is the perfect time to do so. Your want to sort this out before the little one comes!
I think it's always worst for the parents! We kept delaying the sleep training as I was worried it will upset my baby. Turned out, it took one hour crying on and off and since she sleeping through the night.
I would suggest to stick with it. You don't need to be hard. You can sit in the room and talk until he falls asleep. It's not like you have to leave him crying alone. Just make sure you don't go into his bed and don't take him back you yours.

SouthLondonMum22 · 15/05/2023 10:03

He's 4, he's not a baby. I agree with your husband.

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Superdupes · 15/05/2023 11:37

The worst time to do this would be when the new baby arrives as he could feel pushed out. If you don't want this to be happening when the baby is here then the sooner you start working on it the better I'd imagine.

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