Toddler whining

[Sleeepdeprived]

I can cope with the night wake ups (he still wakes up at night), I can cope with the tantrums, I can cope with the nap refusals, the fussy eating, the constant need for attention, and everything else that comes along with having a toddler, apart from the whining! When it starts it’s incessant, and lasts all evening until he goes to bed and I just cannot bear the sound of it.

I can’t remember when it started, and I know it’s very common, but I just can’t cope with the whining anymore.

We’ve had a lovely day today. Had a play date in the morning and a trip to the farm this afternoon. It’s been so nice, lots of fun, laughter and cuddles. We get home and the second he walks through the door his voice changes and he starts whining. Everyday. Whether he’s been at nursery, whether we’ve had a chilled day, or whether we’ve had a fun-filled day.

I tell him I can’t understand him when he whines and ask him to use his big boy voice. I don’t respond to his whines other than to say that. As soon as he uses his normal voice I respond to his question / want / need.

Am I doing anything wrong? Is there anything else I can do to stop the whining? It’s honestly rage inducing! If this is just a phase, how long does this phase last? Please help!

Do you think he might be over tired if it's always happening in the evening? Maybe an earlier bed time might help x

Does he watch Bing?

I just want to respond to the part about what kind of day he's had. That literally has nothing to do with it. He could have had the best day of his life and then come evening whine and winge because it's often developmental. They're experimenting with getting their needs met and often don't know what they actually need so instead are just asking for things they can name but aren't appropriate at that time etc. Hence it's like a long grade cry or exaggerated moan, much more likely when ill, tired or anxious.

I feel your pain. I couldn't stand the whiny voice either.

It really is a phase. A dementing negative phase.

I dealt with it exactly as you are doing. All requests would be considered if expressed in a proper voice.

You won't see immediate results but this too shall pass.

Be strong!!!!!

Does he watch Bing?

This made me laugh

😂 This was my first thought too. 'But Floooooooooopppppppp!'

It's a good point though, the TV kids watch can make a massive difference. I've had to ban DS from watching Peppa Pig because he was just being rude

🤣🤣 we banned Bing because it made mine so bad. The one where Flop is ill and Bing just keeps making a huge mess fills me with actual rage. 🤣

"I can't hear you when you whinge" is one of my stock phrases.

Make cup of tea, practice deep breaths, eat emergency biscuits. I hate the whinging.

Hahaha he does watch Bing - only one episode while I stick him in front of CBeebies in the morning while I’m getting dressed, ready, packed etc for the day. His cousin is obsessed with Bing though so MIL has it on iPlayer when at her house 😩 I absolutely hate Bing. Why make such a whiny character? I also hate Flop!

Yes replace bing with bluey things will improve

It’s such an annoying and wearing phase. Just be super consistent about not responding to it, “I can’t understand you when you talk like that/use that voice” etc. Having that chat all the time can feel even more tiring at times but I refuse to be whinged at. Not saying it stops it at all, but I take some comfort in the fact I’m not enabling and encouraging it at least.

thanks! Good to know km doing the right thing so will persist with that. We had a much better day today with minimal whining which I really needed!