I'm not able for this

[Bettydog]

I've just spent another morning shouting at my children. I shout all the time. I'm hurting and damaging my children because I can't control my stress or emotions. The house is a tip, we're drowning in debt, one of my daughters has an anxiety proble I think I'm causing. After every shouting session I'm consumed with guilt and remorse and depression but I keep doing it. I should have never had children because I clearly can't do it. How do I stop ruining my girls' lives?

Getting overwhelmed is normal, and for some people it means they boil over. Everyone does it to some degree, so don't be so hard on yourself.

I find it helps to break my day down into smaller tasks that I can achieve more easily. It is also good to write lists of things that need doing, there is great satisfaction in crossing things off I find.

Citizens Advice is a good port of call if you are having money worries. They hear that sort of stuff all the time, so should be able to help.

Lastly, be kind to yourself. We are often our own worst critics, and will often judge ourselves more harshly than others would.

Have you looked at step change or a similar organisation?

do you have a mortgage?

is your credit score intact?

do you have lots of debts you can lump into one loan?

are you a clean freak?

sounds like life is hard for both of you right now